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| Counseling cannot be done without what? |
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| Without the guidance of the Holy Spirit |
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| The counselor must be what? |
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| To inspire by discussion, by the Word and thru Prayer |
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| Finding God's solution or answer to a problem, which often includes a new & changed way of living |
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| List the 6 ingredients that are in wisdom? |
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-Pure
-Peaceable
-Gentle
-Full of Mercy
-Bears good fruit
-Unfeigned(without hypocrisy) |
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| List the 7 human characteristics of a counselor: |
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-A good listener
-Able to instill confidence
-Consistent-able to exercise authority and to confront
-Able to communicate easily with different age levels
-Able to control their tongue
-Impeccable personal hygiene
-Patient |
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| List the 5 spiritual characteristics of a counselor |
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-A personal and intimate relationship with the Holy Spirit
-Increasing in daily knowledge of the Word of God
-Able to recognize and obey the voice of God
-Knows their position in Christ
-Gifts of the spirit are able to operate in their life |
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| List 9 negative characteristics of a counselor |
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-Emotionally unstable
-To psychological
-A poor relationship w/ God and insufficient knowledge of His Word
-To sympathetic concerning excuses
-To rigid or judicious so counsels w/o being able to identify
-Becomes emotionally involved
-Domineering
-A compelling need to be accepted
-No prayer life |
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| List 7 reason why counseling is unsuccessful |
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-Person doesn't really want to be helped
-Rehabilitation takes time
-Counselor makes wrong diagnosis
-Conflict of personalities
-Counselor gives support and encouragement w/o actually counseling
-The counselee is stubborn |
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| List 8 things that determine a counselors success |
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-Their hard work
-Professional and Spiritual growth
-Ability to persevere in prayer
-Knowledge of their task
-Knowledge of the Word
-Gifts of the Spirit in their life
-Their relationship w/ God
-The working of God's power in and thru their life |
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| What is the ultimate goal of counseling? |
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| To bring about change in peoples lives thru the delivering power of Jesus Christ |
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| Talking should always be followed by what: |
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| When can the 1st step to change take place? |
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| By a decision of the will of that person |
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| Counseling must determine whether these 3 things caused habits and problems |
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| What has happened to them in the past, Their sinful nature, Inheritance thru example |
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| To listen is an act of what? |
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| Listening involves paying attention to what 3 things? |
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| Words, Tone of voice, Body language |
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| Breakdown the percentages as well: |
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| Words 7%, Tone of voice 38%, Body language 55% |
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| That which is unspoken, hands, arms, and how each position is utilized,ie, clenched fists, hidden hands, etc. |
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| What 3 things make up body language: |
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| The face, the eyes, and position of the body |
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| Information can be given in what 2 ways? |
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| Open and closed, must listen to the emotions and voice to find the true meaning of what's being said |
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| The most important aspect of a man is his what? |
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| What are the 3 levels of problems compared to? Break it down |
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Compared to trees:
1st level-leaves and fruit
2nd level-branches, slightly hidden
3rd level-the root |
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| Why should a counselor assign homework? |
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| So Counselee is never left empty or in a vacuum |
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| Are counselors expected to pray? |
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| Yes - with the person and to close the interview |
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| Explain empathy vs. sympathy: |
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| Sympathy is a shared agreement or harmony of another persons suffering whereas empathy is a knowledge of that suffering intellectually but not be emotionally affected by it. |
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| What is the purpose of homework/assignments? List 8 reasons |
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Purpose - to have their mind renewed.
-To bring about change
-To get insight
-Help the counselee express feelings
-Provide feedback
-Helps the counselee stay positive
-Prevents dependency on the counselor
-Helps monitor progress
-Saves time |
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| List 2 wrong ideas by counselors: |
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| Expected to be Christ like and available at ALL time for any demands by counselee, "I" must be the solution to peoples problems, |
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| List 2 wrong ideas by counselees: |
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| My emotional pain justifies seeing a counselor immediately- cannot wait!. I don't need to do anything since it is the counselors job to get me out of this. |
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| What is the root cause of most problems: |
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| List 5 symptoms of rejection: |
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-Sadness
-Self Pity
-Self Hate
-Spirit Quenched
-Suicidal Tendencies
-Excessive leniency
-Inferiority
-Apathy
-Feelings of failure
-Guilt delusion
-Dullness
-Distrust
-Fearful
-Depression |
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| List 5 symptoms of rebellion: |
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Superiority
False
Stubborn
Possessive
Deceptive
Competitive
Prideful
Hostility
Perfectionism
Bitterness/hatred
Manipulative
Domineering
Controlling
Critical
Unyielding
Unreachable
Homicidal
Suicidal |
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| List 5 escape mechanisms: |
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| Illegitimate sex, drugs, alcohol, smoking, binging, anorexia/bulimia, excessive sleep, reading, television, gambling, buying mania |
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| The 1st step to healing is what 2 things? |
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| Acknowledge the pain & hurt, Make a list of people who have cause pain, hurt and rejection |
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| What is the main solution? |
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| Why can some people not forgive? |
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| insecure and afraid, wallow in the pleasure they hold over others, jealous, fear of being hurt again, self pity, if you have an attitude of "I'm not the guilty one, vengeance |
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