Heteronormativity / cisnormativity / mononormativity

.Heteronormativity-Straight people are considered the norm and are represented, and are priviledged

.Cisnormativity- cisgender people (non-trans) are considered the norm and are represented and are priviledged

.mononormativity monogamous people are considered the norm, are represented and are priviledged

Heterosexism / cissexism / monocentrism

.Heterosexism- straight people are systematically (socially and legally) priviledged (queer people have fewer rights and protection)  
.cissexism -cisgender people are systematically priviledged (trans people have fewer rights and protection)

.Monocentrism- monogamous people are systematically priviledged (poly people have fewer rights and protection

feminine parenting style-

masculine parenting styles-

saftey and protection including issues of social norms and expectations 

self education and positive relationships before come out 

1.family of origin-(parents, siblings, grandparents, cousins,etc)

2.Nuclear family-(parents, siblings, spouse and children;typically in household)

3. Chosen Family-(close friends, partners, roomates, colleagues etc)

1.Do we know how many queer families exist in America?

2.What types of families are protrayed in the media ?

1.no

• they are undefined,
•  there are so many queer identies,
• demographic researchers are often clueless about queer issues,
• national-level survey research often has reporting issues

2.families are potrayed as white, middle class cis- families

systematically= this is written into our institutions and ideologies (ie: institutionalized discrimination,societal-level homophobia, transphobia, polyphobia

1. transgender- a person that identifies with a sex other than the one that they were assigned 
2. trans-a person who gender identity goes beyond gender categories.

what is transsituated perspective

and how does cisgender partners of tansitioning people experience this ?

1. trans people have transsituated perspectives -they also have distinctive understandings of their transitions and its relationships to their partnerships 
2. cis partners of trans people also have transsituated perspectives -they have their own understandig of the trans experience 
3. they are part of the process 

rejection

male relationships thought of as just sex between men 

denial of female relationships -

.romantic friendships 

.passing as straight couples 

.boston marriage 

.society viewed as plantonic, not romantic/sexual 

1.egalitarian ideal -wanting to be equals in all aspects of the relationship 

disclosing feeling and emotions 

blurs boundaries between friends and partners 

2.the friendships model -romantic and sexual attraction are important. but, so is companionships emotional closeness diclourse of feelings,etc 

allows exploration of non-sexual forms of itamacy. 

Partnering with the opposite gender

bisexual invisibility 

heterosexual privilege

(outsiders within) they often have heterosexual privilege but are also simutaneously stigmatized 

white weddings reinforce the wedding industrial complex

culture construction of masculinity 

masculinity=rigid, feminity =flexibility 

masculinity = culturally valued feminity = cultural deviance 

thus woman can present masculine, but men cannnot present feminine 

1 adoptions 

open vs . closed 

domestic vs international 

fostering 

2. reproductive assistance 

intermination with sperm provider 

know vs.identity -released vs anaymous donor 

donor vs friend 

surrogacy - traditional genetic vs gestational 

hired vs family/friend 

in vitro fertalization (IVF)

harvesting and fertilizing eggs

creative kinships -coparenting sharing children with another person or couple 

social parenting (primary parents)

traditional reproduction -reproductive sex 

flawed methodology-inherently comparing kids of seperated families to never- seperated families 

coding parents as gay/lesbian if they ever had same sex relationship 

flawed ethnics- partiality, finanncing issues, clearly bias (funded by religious ties) 

there are several ways where children of same sex parents fare better 

claiming lesbian/gay families as good as straight familes =heterocentric 

problems with using public facilities 

children/family not understanding the decision to come out. 

abandoning your old life ways 

• psychological support 
• better perception of self
• less attempts and thoughts of suicide
• less substance abuse 
• over all better health 

• internal homophobia 
• increase psychological symptoms 
• higher levels of depressions 
• more likley to be homeless 

youth are more carefree and impulsive 

youth are more vulnerable 

adults have more anxiety 

pro-supportive and carefree about disclosure 

negative - guilt, denial and distancing / rejection 

homelessness 

abuse (verbal/physical)

disowned 

nonmonogamy- a relationships with multiple sexual partners which would be considered cheating 

consensual nonmonogamy - relationships where people agree on open realationships or multiple relationships 

1. open relationships - have a dont ask dont tell policy 

more sexual and less romantic

2.polyamory- people meet and know of the other members involved with this one person. 

more romantic and less just sexual 

similarity- agreements and understandings disclosed

• ‘Fluid bonding’: sharing bodily fluids with only specific partners • ’Handfasting’: pagan ritual where partners bind wrists

Why might bisexuals have more minority stress than lesbians or gay men?  

double stigma 

How did the transition impact sex for LBQ women in relationships with transmen? 

it challenge sex roles..everyone feels better about themselves

What influences bisexual people's experiences and decisions in intimate relationships?

common social attitudes,biphobia, general partners attitude

Which is not one of the ways same-sex couples handle heteronormative celebration scripts?  

idealizing them 

What questions and experiences do LBQ partners of transmen face regarding their own sexual identity?  (Joslin-Roher & Wheeler)

all of the answers 
 What were queers (historically) 'required' to do? 

get creative in creating families 

Which was not one of the 3 main themes evident in the data on same-sex celebrations? following hetero normaltive roles 

Why do some youth in same-sex families use active & passive strategies of deception?  (Welsh) to represent themselves as socially acceptable 

how did youth  in same-sex families use language to 'transcend stereotypical limitations of the traditional model of family?'  (Welsh) love and support 

How do some lesbian couples and other mothers experience homophobia & heterosexism? all of the above 

What are the most common stressors for children of transgender parents?bullying and altering how they view their parents 

What does the 'intentional nature of LGBT parenthood' refer to? making effort to have kids 

What is the 'overarching contributing factor' to boundary ambiguity in gay stepfamilies? heterosexism

What are 2 major issues that many LGBT-parent families face that most heterosexual-parent families don't?  transracial adoption and heterosexism 

What is the term monogamy socially imbued with?  (Scherrer) sexual connotation 

What are the sources of jealousy for husbands and wives in swinging marriages wives enjoy it too much/ men form emotinal attatchment to other person 

How are swinging marriages similar to traditional monogamous marriages? the love btw the two is primary 

Why do some asexuals practice or are open to polyamory? all the above 

What is monogamy when it is 'outside of its relationship to sexual behavior?' virtually unintelligable