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| What does Rowatt say should be the procedure or guidelines for touching a teenager as a part of therapy? |
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Definition
| Avoid doing so in private and be very careful in public. Best to ask before hugging and such. |
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Definition
| Usually outgoing, confident, high achievers, people pleasers, leaders, etc. |
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| Second/Middle-Born Children |
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Definition
| Often a little insecure, engage in hobbies/active social lives, attempt to be unique, are more flexible. |
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| Often relational, helpful, caretakers, (can be) self-centered, manipulative, and tend to be socially accepted. |
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| What is wrong with the concept that counseling youth is solving their problems for them? |
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Definition
If you impose your will on a counselee, you,
A) Create an emotional cripple by denying them the opportunity to make their own conclusion
B) Take the responsibility for THEIR life. |
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| What is the essence of counseling? |
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Definition
| The essence of Counseling is coming along side of a young person and through active listening, reflection and asking the right questions, you provide the young person with new insights that allow him/her to make a more informed decision concerning his/her problem. |
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| Before you enter into a counseling relationship of any kind with a young person, you must ask yourself three very important questions. What are those questions? |
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Definition
1. Do I have the time that the problem demands?
2. Do I have the skill or training that this problem requires?
3. Do I possess emotional stability with this issue? |
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| In order to connect with the teen, what are the three areas you must prepare? |
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Definition
1. Client
2. Context
3. Counselor |
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| How do you prepare a client? |
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Definition
| Reassure they did the right thing and it will get better, explain purpose of counseling, and make time limits clear. |
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| How do you prepare the Context? (place) |
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Definition
| Safe place, comfortable, protected from accusations, if after office hours, arrange for another staff or appropriate person to be there at the same time; hold all calls; temperature, furniture arrangement, background music, lighting; clear desk of work; don’t have desk in between |
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| How do you prepare the counselor? |
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Definition
| Arrive early enough to prepare mentally/emotionally, review what you already know, pray for guidance and direction. |
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| What place does posture and eye contact play in the counseling situation? What are some "do's and don'ts" in this area? |
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Definition
| Body language can affect the way the client feels about you, which can make or break the counseling relationship. (Don’t sit behind a desk; be close enough to show care but not invade space. Sit squared with teen leaning slightly forward with good eye contact.) |
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Term
| What is the formula for responding to content? |
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Definition
“What I hear you saying is…”
“In other words, ______.” |
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Term
| What is the empathy question? |
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Definition
| “How would I feel feel if I were them in this situation?” |
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Term
| What two aspects of a feeling word must you get correct when answering the empathy question? |
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Definition
| The correct emotion and the correct intensity. |
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| What is the formula for communicating an understanding of what the client is feeling? |
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Definition
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| What is the formula for communicating meaning? |
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Definition
| “What I hear you saying is…. You feel…because…” |
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