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Interacting with people according to social roles
Ex: In a classroom, a teacher interacting with students = social relationship with regards to roles |
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| Voluntary commitment between irreplaceable individuals |
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| Relationships of Circumstance |
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Exist because of situations or circumstances you are in
ex: Sit in a group of ppl in class because of circumstances of last names |
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| Select to initiate, maintain, or dissolve. There are no rules/laws that say you have to continue your relationships |
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Markers that indicate a change in the relationship, usually in intimacy, level of liking, attitudes, etc
ex: Getting into a big fight, marriage, moving in together,etc |
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| Stages of Relationship Escalation |
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| 1.) Pre-Interaction - Paying attn to person and judging what they will be like 2.) Initiation - What is your name? Intros, etc 3.) Exploration - Exchange info and engage in superficial self disclosure, what do you like? Major? etc... 4.) Identification - First dates, get to know each other 5.) Intensification - Becomes more of an actual relationship, personalized language, "we" 6.) Revising - Is this something that will last?7.)Intimate Bonding - Proposing Marriage, commiting life, telling everything, etc |
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1.) Turmoil-Little things they do begin to bug you (Stagnation-getting bored, routine)
2.)De-Intensification-Find alternate things to do besides spending time with the person
3.) Individualism-Less future talk, "I' again instead of "we"
4.)Separation-no longer see yourselves as friends, or a couple
5.)Post-Interaction-Cant start over from scratch, once you have been in a relationship with someone, that will always be there and influence interactions |
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| Types of Interpersonal Attraction |
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1.) Physical Attration
2.) Proximity-How close you are makes it easier/harder to start/maintain a relationship
3.) Similarity-Attracted to those you have a lot in common with
4.) Credibility, Confidence, Charisma-want trustworthy/good people, etc
5.)COmplimentary needs-See card
6.) Reciprocation of liking-see card
7.)Relationship Potential-see card
8.) Short Term Initial Attraction-see Card
9.)Long term maintenance attraction-see card |
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-Inclusion: Want to be included in others activities
-Affection: Need to be loved, accept love, give love
-Control: Need to take responsibility, make decisions, and have others do the same |
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| We are attracted to/want to form relationships with people who like us |
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-Evaluate relationships as they go along to weigh costs and benefits
-Want more out than we put in |
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| Short Term Initial Attraction |
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| Find initial similarities and want to explore more |
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| Long term maintenence attraction |
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| When we want to sustain a relationship over a long period of time |
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| Social Penetration Theory |
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| how we engage in trajectories, getting to know someone, etc... |
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| Self Disclosure (Soc. Penetration Theory) |
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| Provide info. to others about ourselves that they otherwise would not know |
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| Onion Model of Social Penetration Theory |
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| All sorts of Layers: -Public Info. = What you look like, everyone knows -Facts/Biographical = Major, Where you are from -Attitudes and Ideas -Personal Feelings and Emotions -Peak Info: Rarely share, deep secrets, fears, etc... |
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| Principles of Self Disclosure |
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-Moves from less personal to more personal
-Moves in small increments
-Reciprocal: Expect other person to disclose same info u did
-Involves trust
-Necessary to move relationship forward
-NOT linear: Changes as relationship develops |
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| Relationship Maintenance (6 Primary Strategies) |
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- Positivity = If you care about some and they are having a bad week, you do things to help them feel better
- Openness = If you are dating someone, letting them know where you are going, what you are doing, etc
- Assurances = Being there for someone, saying I love you so they know, etc, letting them know you care about them
-Sharing Tasks = Splitting up chores/things you do; Doing things together
- Networks = Sharing friendship circles; they can hang with your friends you with theirs, etc...
- Avoiding Anti-social Behavior = Do stuff with other people |
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| Dialectical Theory (3 sets of tensions) |
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1.) Autonomy/Connection - Desire to be separate vs. Desire to be together creates tension
2.) Novelty/Predictability - Desire for familiarity vs. Desire for novelty
3.) Openness/Closed - Desire for openness vs desire for privacy |
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| 4 Ways to deal with tensions |
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1.) Neutralization-Balance between opposing forces
2.) Separation-Address one need and ignore the other, also alternating poles such as in long distance relationships
3.) Segmentation-Partners assign each pole to certain spheres, issues, activities, or times; Open but refrain from certain areas
4.) Reframing-COmplex strategy that redefines apparently contradictory needs as not really in opposition |
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| Private rules, understandings, meanings, and patterns of interacting that partners create for their relationships |
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| 4 Elements of Relational Culture |
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1.) Idiums - Unique language, nicknames, pet names, etc...
2.) Rules
3.) ROutines
4.) Rituals |
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| Nonverbal Cues that a Relationship might be ending |
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| Indirect and Direct Strategies for Ending relationships |
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Indirect - TRying to end relationship w/o explicityl saying you are ending it
- withdrawal = Slowly reducing contact with the person, not showing up as much
-pseudo-deescalation = Saying you don't want to end the relationship when you really do; less intimacy
-cost escalation = don't want to break up with them so you do things they don't like so they break up with you
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- Negative Identity Management = Saying I'm done and moving one
- Justification = Explain why you wanna break up
- De-escalation = Want to cont. to hang out but not in a relationship necessarily
- Positive Tone = "Its not you its me" |
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| Duck's model for ending relationships |
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1.) Intrapsysic Process-Start thinking about the value of the relationship, do you want to stay in it, etc.
2.) Dyadic Process-Talk to the other partner, fight more often, express dissatisfaction, etc...
3.) Social Support Process - Talk about what you think of the breakup with social support network
4.) Grave Dressing Process-Story of the breakup you are sharing with people, also mourning loss of relationship
5.) resurrection Process-Moving forward into a future without the other person |
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| Friendships, Romantic Relationships, and Family Relationships differ in that... |
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| Why are friendships important? |
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| Give us someone to talk to, share a good time with, etc... |
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| Three types of friendships |
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1.) Associative-friendships such as those created in a class; most likely wont sustain; created by association; most adult relationships
2.) Reciprocal-Loyalty/commitment between friends; hang out outside place you met; equals
3.) Receptive-between people of different status such as your manager at work; will never be as good as it could be |
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| Bill Rawlins 6 Stages of Friendship |
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1.) Role-limited interactions: based on roles you both have; begins here
2.)Friendly Relations-Start to interact outside of roles to see if there is some common ground
3.)Moving Toward Friendship-Engage in more self disclosure and become more irreplaceable to each other
4.) Nascent Friendship-Start to acknowledge other person as a friend
5.) Stabalize Friendship-Form expectation on how to maintain it and how it will last
6.) Waning Friendship-One or both individuals stop investing in the relationship (distance, etc) |
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1.) Blood and Law: Share DNA and recognized by govt; Share household but not related
2.) Roles-Adults who care for children
3.) Fictive Kin-"A family is a family if it thinks its a family" |
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-Nuclear: Traditional (mom, dad and bio kids)
-Blended: Two adults with children but not necessarily bio
-Single Parent Families
-Extended Families |
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| 7 stages of the family lifestyle |
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1.) Establish the Family
2.) Enlarge the Family
3.) Dev. the Family
4.)Encouraging Independence
5.) Launching Children
6.) Post Launching Children
7.) Retirement |
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1.) Red (Eros)-Sexual, erotic, passion
2.) Yellow (Ludas)-Love as a game
3.) Blue (Storge)-Based on trust and caring
4.) Green (Pragma)-Combo of Blue and Yellow, realistic and practical, mutual benefit and compatible partners
5.) Orange (Mania)-Obsessive Love, need for attn.
6.)Purple (Agope)-Dutiful and selfless love |
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| Challenges to Long Distance Relationships |
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-Lack of daily COM about small issues/events
-Unrealistic Expectations about interactions when partners are geographically together |
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| People are more happy and satisfied with equitable relationships than with inequitable ones. In Equitable relationships, partners perceive that the benefits and costs of being in the relationship are about equal to the two partners |
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