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Fustration or Feelings that others do not respect us or care how we feel. Etc. (There are many things that cause anger, but they all come down to these two basic principles) |
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| Not getting what we want, especially if we were expecting to get it. |
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| Our thoughts cause our anger. Why? |
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If you are mad at someone, it is usually because you think that he meant to be disrespectful or uncaring. Since we can never be sure what another person meant, however, we may be wrong about his motive. Most arguments start from such misunderstandings. Remember: it is we who make ourselves mad! |
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| Sometimes anger causes depression. Why? |
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| When a person gives up fighting a problem and loses the enery of anger, they can becomes depressed. |
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Our expections determine or fustration. What does this mean? Give an example |
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An entertainer may be angry or depressed because he did not win an Oscar, even though he still has wealth and fame. A poor man, however, may be happy because he found a $5 bill when he was broke. Our moods are relative to what we want and expect, not to what we actually get! |
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| Self-concept affects anger and depression. What does this mean? |
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We all have areas in which we are sensitive, based always on past experiences. These sensitive areas cause us to react more strongly as well as to jump to negative conclusions more readily at times when our "buttons" are pushed. Thus, "know thyself" is a key to managing anger. |
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| What are some things that affect the threshold of anger? |
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Physical fatigue Pain Alcohol Drugs Recent irritaions or stresses Etc. These make us more irritable or susceptible to depression. Be aware of the thresholds of anger of both persons anytime there is a disagreement! |
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Managing anger is often managing communication. What does this mean? |
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For two people to communicate clearly, there needs to be a talker and a listener. However, in an argument there are two talkers and no listeners! Thus, to resolve an argument, one must remember several techniques of good communication: |
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Managing anger is often managing communication. What are some techniques for good communication? |
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Use active listening Choose non-attaching words Use a polite tone etc. |
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What is active listening? |
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| Making eye contact and saying, "I understand what you're saying," or "I understand that you feel such-and-such," helps calm the other person down and helps clarify misunderstanding, often laying the groundwork for him to listen to you after he has calmed down. |
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| Why is it important to use non-attaching words and a polite tone durning conflict? |
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| We can always express our views in a variety of ways, so the choice of words is important. Our tone of voice and our body language convey as much information as our words! |
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| Does justifying anger help resolve it? |
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No. We immediately want to justify anger, who wouldn't get angry at this or that? But justifying it doesn't help you resolve it, so unless you live in a perfect universe with no one else around, it needs to be resolved. |
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| Why is "being aware" of your anger helpful? |
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| Instead of just letting the anger flow when it is tapped, stop and be aware of how you are feeling. Being introspective like this will put the focus back on you and off of others-that in and of itself can solve a lot of problems. |
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| Why is it important to ask yourself why and event made you angry? |
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We have to accept that it's not natural to just have immediate rage, as so many do, over everyday events, so we need to discover why the pot is simmering. Did it hurt you-if so, how and why? What does it say about you? Did it threaten you; make you feel unsure, insecure, dumb or embarrassed? If you are a man, did it challenge your manhood or integrity? |
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| What are some techniques that can help manage anger? |
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Be aware Ask your self why you are angry Resolve it and LET IT GO. Etc. |
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What are some of the physical symptoms of anger? |
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Heart rate goes up Blood pressure goes up Energy homones increase Adrenaline is released Etc. |
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| Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. What is an example of an external event? |
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| A specific person (Such as a coworker or supervisor) or event (a traffic jam, a canceled flight). |
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| Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. What is an example of an internal event? |
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| Worrying or brooding about your personal problems. Memories of traumatic or enraging events can also trigger angry feelings. |
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