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        | smaller units in families, determined by generation, sex, or function |  | 
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        | emotional and physical barriers that protect and enhance the integrity of individuals |  | 
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        | elements of a system automatically adjust to coordinate their functioning; people may have to work at it |  | 
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        | negotiating the boundaries between members of a relationship and between the relationship and the outside world |  | 
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        | Cross-generational coalition |  | Definition 
 
        | an inappropriate alliance between a parent and child, who side together against a third member of the family |  | 
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        | a structural family therapy term for accepting and accommodating to families to win their confidence and circumvent resistance |  | 
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        | an interaction stimulated in structural family therapy in order to observe and then change transactions that make up family structure |  | 
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        | another method of modifying interactions. Intensity is used to block the stream of interactions. Shaping competence is like altering the direction of the flow. By reinforcing positives, structural therapists help family members use functional alternatives that are already in their repertoire. |  | 
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        | part of a struggle for change that sometimes takes on the appearance of combat, the goal being to change the relationship within a subsystem. In other words, the therapist takes sides. |  | 
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        | a nonverbal experiential technique in which family members position themselves in a tableau that reveals significant aspects of their perceptions and feelings. |  | 
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        | an experiential therapy technique in which family members are asked to draw their ideas about how the family is organized |  | 
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        | acting out the parts of important characters to dramatize feelings and practice new ways of relating |  | 
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        | Heinz Kohut's version of psychoanalysis that emphasizes the need for attachment and appreciation |  | 
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        | psychoanalytic theory derived from Melanie Klein and developed by the British School that emphasizes relationships and attachment, rather than libidinal and aggressive drives, as the key issues of human concern |  | 
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        | the innate tendency to seek out closeness to caretakers in the face of stress |  | 
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        | expression of understanding and acceptance of another's feelings |  | 
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        | a tendency to exaggerate the virtues of someone, part of the normal developmental process in children's relationships to their parents and in intimate partnerships |  | 
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        | from psychoanalytic theory, not merely imitation, but appropriation of traits of an admired other |  | 
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        | Projective identification |  | Definition 
 
        | a defense mechanism that operates unconsciously, whereby unwanted aspects of the self are attributed to another person and that person is induced to behave in accordance with these projected attitudes and feelings |  | 
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        | Self-regard. The exaggerated self-regard most people equate with narcissism is pathological narcissism |  | 
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