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| Three Assumptions of Expectancy Violation Theory |
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1. Our interactions are driven by expectations.
2. Expectations are learned.
3. Evaluation of deviance driven by reward valence. |
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| Deviation occurs. Physiological or cognitive arousal occurs. Reward valence is evaluated. |
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| How much joking you can take, how much screaming you can handle |
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1. Criticism
2. Relationship escalation
3. Relationship de-escalation
4. Uncharacteristic behavior
5. Support and Confirmation
6. Transgressions
7. Acts of Devotion
8. Acts of Disregard
9. Acts of Inclusion |
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| Expectations of Assumption 1 of EVT |
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1. Pre-interactional expectations
2. Interactional expectations
3. Predictive expectations
4. Prescriptive expectations |
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| Dramatism: Definition of Self |
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| Self is not carried from situation to situation. |
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| Dramatism: Parts of the Front |
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1. Idealization
2. Concealment
3. Maintenance of expressive control
4. Mystification |
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| We all want to make the perfect impression |
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| the act of suppressing errors and mistakes, the dirty work, and uphold mystique |
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| Dramatism: Maintenance of Expressive Control |
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| Performer improvs the script, attempts to appear comfortable, or overcomes poor planning |
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| Dramatism: Front space and Back space |
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Front: place where performance is given
Back: place where performance is knowingly contradicted |
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| Dramatism: 7 aspects of Team Communication |
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1. Discouraging individual public stands
2. Avoiding open disagreement
3. Giving impression of individually reaching joint decision
4. Filling in / Covering for others' mistakes
5. Excluding loose cannons (unpredictable members)
6. Maintain clear audience/team lines
7. Agree to follow director |
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| Relational Maintenance: Confirmation |
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1. Recognize that the other exists
2. Respond relevantly to other's message
3. Accept other's experience
4. Treat other personally |
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| Relational Maintenance: Disconfirmation |
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| Not recognizing, not responding relevantly, rejecting other's experience, treating other impersonally |
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| Relational Maintenance: Intimate Currencies |
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1. Positive verbal statements
2. Self-disclosure
3. Listening
4. Facial Expression
5. Touch
6. Sexuality
7. Aggression |
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| Relational Maintenance: Economic Currencies |
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1. Gifts
2. Money
3. Food
4. Favors
5. Services
6. Time together
7. Access rights |
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| Relational Maintenance: Why Problems Arise |
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| Two people are not matched, so there is lacking common understanding. |
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| Relational Maintenance: The Key |
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| The act must be interpreted as intended. |
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| Relational Maintenance: Keep a relationship... |
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1. in existence
2. in satisfactory condition
3. in state of connectedness
4. in repair |
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| Relational Maintenance: Basic Relational Maintenance Skills |
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1. Positivity
2. Openness
3. Assurances
4. Social networks
5. Sharing tasks |
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| Relational Maintenance: Sibling intimacy goes up with a sense of: |
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| Equality, Rapport, Self-disclosure, Friendship |
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| Relational Maintenance: Sibling maintenance |
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1. Sharing tasks
2. Confirmation/Validation
3. Visits
4. Humor
5. Aggression
6. Role Modeling
7. Similarity |
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| Relational Maintenance: Sibling maintenance |
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1. Sharing tasks
2. Confirmation/Validation
3. Visits
4. Humor
5. Aggression
6. Role Modeling
7. Similarity |
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| Relational Maintenance: Romantic Relational Maintenance |
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1. Conflict management
2. Advice
3. Joint activiites
4. Humor
5. Not flirting with others
6. Religion |
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| an expressed struggle between at least two interdependent parties who perceive |
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| and interference from other in achieving one's goals |
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| clear the air, solve problems, role regeneration |
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| Two directions of the Conflict Handling Styles square |
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x-axis: cooperativeness
y-axis: assertiveness |
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| Conflict Handling Style: Competing |
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good for sales, law, sports
trouble listening |
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| Conflict Handling Style: Compromising |
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halfway on both scales
always a win/loss together |
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| Conflict Handling Style: Accomodating |
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super adaptive
can get run over, abused, forgotten |
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| Conflict Handling Style: Avoiding |
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shut down when conflict arises
hardest style to engage with |
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| Conflict Handling Style: Collaborating |
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looking for a win/win situation
adding to the size of the pie of resources, but exhausting |
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1. May vary by context
2. Compromise and Collaboration can blend together.
3. Avoidance may really be a gift, not negative |
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| Conflict: How to Manage it |
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1. Avoid the topic
2. Prevent the argument
3. Withdrawal - physically leave |
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| Conflict: Difficult conversations |
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1. We all have different info than the people we interact with
2. We make different interpretations
3. Our conclusions reflect self-interest |
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| Increasing anxiety after intimacy can lead to |
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| Conflict-provoking behavior |
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| Conflict-provoking behavior can lead to... |
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| conflict or negative feedback |
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| Increasing anxiety after Conflict can lead to... |
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| Conciliatory behavior can lead to... |
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| Intimacy or negative feedback |
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| Magical ratio of Conflict |
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| 5 aspects of positivity for every 1 negative |
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| reaching out to someone to give them support and clarity |
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| Forgiveness produces positive benefits within... |
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| External and Internal attributions |
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Ext: an outside circumstance
Int: nature of the person |
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| Hargrave's definition of Forgiveness |
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| cease to feel resentment against the offender |
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1. Love
2. Well being, of self too
3. restore the tie
4. other's action shows they are sorry
5. reframe the act from int. to ext.attribute |
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| Strategies of Forgiveness |
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Indirect: Go back to normal with a hug or touch
Direct: verbalizing "I forgive you"
Conditional: "I forgive you, but you cheated, so never talk to her again" |
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| Dialectical tensions in Forgiveness |
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1. Mercy vs. Justice
2. Remembering vs. Forgetting
3. Herat vs. Mind
4. Trust vs. Risk |
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