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| Deifinition of "Would Be Lover" |
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| one person who wants and inititae or intensify a romantic relationship |
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| Does not want an intimate relationship with a "would be lover" |
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| Examples of types of situations with "would be lover" and "Rejector" |
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-sometimes two people dont know each other well enought but one of them "feels in love"
-two people might be good friends but one wants to intensify th relationship and other does not |
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| Risks for "Would Be Lovers" |
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| could lead to rejection, humiliation, termintation of a relationship, could cost the person an oppurtunity with the other person |
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| What do "Would be Lovers" percieve as the situation with the other? |
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| see it as beeing extremely postive or extremely negative |
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| How do the "rejectors" percieve the situation with the "Would be Lover"? |
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| Percieve only negative outcomes |
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| How do rejectors usually feel after rejecting the other party? |
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| feel guilty for being unable to return the would be lovers sentimentals, expiernce more negative emotions than would the would be lovers |
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| Who has the clearer script in how to behave between would be lover and rejector? |
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| What was Lees believe on the "rainbow"? |
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| he believed there was 3 primary styles of loveing like there are three primary colors in the rainbow. Mixing these three colors you can create any color in the rainbow. |
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| Does each style of love have postive or negative characteristics |
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| What happens when a person becomes more strongly inditified with one style of love? |
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| He or she is likely to experience some of the negative chartacteristics |
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| Postives of Eros(Erotic)(Physical Love) |
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-attracted on basis of physical attraction
-eager to develop a pasisonate relationship
-often experience emotional highs and lows
-have substantial arousal and desire physical contact
-central part of love relationships
-often leads to more friendship based and secure style love
-couples stayed together longer with high in eros and low in the ludic (game playing style) |
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| Negatives of Eros(Erotic)(Physical Love) |
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-sometimes only atracted to looks and attraction my fade quickly
-some erotic lovers have trouble adjusting atfter intital "hot"attraction
-partners cant live up to high expectations |
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| Explain Storage(Companionate Love) |
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-relationships based on friendship, shared values, goals, cmpatability
-physical attraction < security, companionship, task sharing, joint activity
-relashionship not exciting but stable and dependable
-important both individuals wont same thing ex.family, travel
-often long term romantic relationships, family relationships, close friendships |
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| Positive of Storage (companionate Love) |
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- both people trust each other so low levels of emotional stimulation and arousal
-able to withstand long seperations |
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| Negatives of Storage(companionate love) |
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too much stability can lead to predictability and boredom
-brining excitment and emotion is biggest challenge in relationship |
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| Ludus (Game Playing Love) |
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-see relationships as fun, playful,and casual
-try to avoid commitment and prefer to play the field
-the challenge of pursuit is more rewarding than actual relationship
-put personal goals infront of relationship
-often seen in college and intime individuals grow out of it |
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lovers are demanding,dependent and possessive
-need "to be in control" and know everything the partner is doing
-Lee sees it as combintation of eros and ludus |
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| Positives of Agape(Unselfish Love) |
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-Unselfish,altruistic, unconditional
-focused more on giving than recieving
-intense concern for partners well being
-Willing to make sacrifices for their partner
-contains both eros and storge |
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| Negatives of Agape(Unselfish Love) |
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-sometimes seen "above" everyone else
-sometimes partners cant match the partners lov and feel disconfort and guilt
-sometimes put their partner on too high of a pedestal, partner feels they cant live up to the image |
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-serch for person based on a particular image (age,religon, height)
-Ex.online dating sites
-characterized by "common sense,problem solving approach to live and love
-combines storge and ludus |
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| Negative of Pragma(Practical Love) |
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-based on practical concerns
-can be lifeless and dull
-some levles of intimacy and passion is required to pull the spark into the relationship |
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