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| a set of truths by which one lives one's life |
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| What are the 4 cruial turning point coping resources according to Schlossberg? |
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>situation: how do you see the situation? is it desired or dreaded? expected or unexpected? on time or off time? at a good time or the worst possible time? voluntary or imposed? surrounded by other stresses?
>self: how do you see yourself as you go through transitions? resillient? in control? optimist of pessimist?
>support: what financial or emotional support or other assistance can you muster? from family, friends, neighbors, co-workers, colleagues, groups, organization, institutions? and what usual sources of support and assistance may be disrupted by the transition?
>strategies: do you have a variety of coping mechanisms to draw upon in a transition? do these include some strategies for changing or modifying the transition when the situation itself can't be changed? for dealing with stress produced by the situation? |
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| How did Rogers help his clients when they wanted "to achieve some fixed state or become a fixed intity"? |
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| humans aren't products, they are processes. heh showed them how to continue to discover new elements about themselves in the flow of their experiences |
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| Define "Good Enough" parents and "Saints" |
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Good Enough: allow us to become ourselves and teach us to question and make our own decisions
saints: know who we should become (like them) and present us with a ridgid system of should and shouldn't's which they expect us to swallow whole (as they did) |
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| According to Shepard what are the 2 kinds of stuckness? |
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child-stuck: stuck in childhood, remain overly docile and dependent
adolescent -stuck: we relate to our parents and other parent-like figures in rebellious and ill tempered ways |
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| Utilitarian vs. intrinsic relationships |
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>utilitarian: spousehood is or becomes peripheral to other matters. close companionship, deep emotional involvement, joyful sex are not of major importance in this relationship. rather, the marraige provides a necessary or vonvenient setting for other activities: careers for 1 or both spouses, the raising of children and involvement in social or political activities. it permits a high degree of freedom and independence and provides stability and participation in the commonly expected family rituals of society.
>intrinsic: the intimate relationship between the spouses in primary. these couples may raise a family, and each may have a careet, but these activities are kept subordinate to the spousal relationship. such couples are somewhat less likely to participate in civic and even religious activities. |
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| Halpern's "songs and dances" between parents and children |
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>guilt gavotte: parent.child tries to control the other by "you are the cause of my suffering, make it up to me"
>fear fandango: fear; "if you ___, then i'll kill myself/kick you out."
>shame shimmy: "i never thought you'd do that"
>hoochy koochy: 1 parent is overly involved with child
>money minuet: control via money |
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| Halpern's attributes of healthy parent child relationships |
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1) they see their children as separate from themselves and help their children to become independent
2) they see their children as distinct from each other and they appreciate and respond to their uniqueness even when it leads their children in directions different from their own.
3) they trust their children and their ability to find
4) they enjoy and are intrigued by the persons their children are becoming.
5) they have their own lives independently of their children's and they pursue their own needs and potential
6) Their concept of themselves is not based on the success and failure of their children; they dont need their childrens accomplishments to give them status nor are they brought down by their children's failures. |
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secure: mother accessible and responsible. infant secure with relatively less crying distress at mother's absence
2) avoidant: mother not very accessible or responsible. demonstrates more rejecting or rebuffing behavior, intimidation and anger. infant defensively attached or avoids mother.
anxious/ambivalent: mother slow or invonsisten in response to intrudes on or interferes with infant's desired activities. infant cries more and explores less than secure infants. shows anger and anxiety and is intensely distressed by mothers absence. |
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| Sternberg's components and types of love |
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intimacy: closeness, support, sharing, communication
commitment: determination to maintain relationship, cognitive dimension, weathers the storm
liking: intimacy
companionate: intimacy, commitment
empty: commitment
fatuous: passion, commitment
infatuation: passion
romantic: intimacy, passion
consumate: intimacy, passion, commitment |
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sparkle: falling in love, appreciated, cherished, etc.
disillusionment: differences and disappointments, confront problems
mutual acceptance: accept and accommodate others |
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| 4 changes Carl Rogers saw in his clients through therapy |
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