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| a complex and compound concept partly based on a social creation based on history, memory, experience, and interpretations and partly by momenary aspects of talk and party by the social creation directed by other people, society, The performance of self is guided by other people .. you get trapped by language in a symbolic representation of the styles of behavior you experience. The identity conversation is an internal conversation that each party has with herself, over what the situation tells her about who she is. |
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| What are 3 identity question posed by the author |
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| Am I competent, am I a good person, am I worthy of love. |
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| Explain the all-or-nothing syndrome |
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| polarize thinking in that we are either all good or all bad...making us hypersensitive to feedback we deny or we exaggerate importance of feedback to a crippling degree. |
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| What are the steps to manage identity in conversation? |
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1. Know what identity issues are important to you What about your identity feels at risk? What does it mean to you? How would it feel if what your feared is true?
2. Learn to integrate new information into your identity in ways that are not
all-or-nothing ways of thinking
Three things to accept about yourself to deal with identity issue
you will make mistakes. Your intentions re complex you have contributed to the problem..
Identity issue are terrifying |
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| What 3 characteristics are important to accept about yourself in difficult conversations? |
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You will make mistakes
Your intentions are Complex
You have contributed to the problem to ground yourself you must be award of the identity issues you have and complexify your identity (adopt the and stance |
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| What's the difference between "core" issues of competence and goodness? (a third is being worthy of love) |
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competence has to do with skill and ability.
Goodness has to do with morals and honesty. |
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| What are the traits present in communication when people engage in "dialogue"? |
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| when the people involved present to each other as persons --as unique, reflective, choosing, valuing, thinking-and-feeling beiings. |
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| Privacy and disclosure are part of communication, how are these components experienced in dialogue? |
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| they are the primary tension in dialoge. the both / andness of privacy and disclosure . there is some tension between privacy and disclosure…a kind of in the moment interactive multivocality, in which multiple points of view retain their integrity as they play off each other.Most often when people maintain one point of tension between letting the other person happen while holding my ground.. this is the primary tension… minor ones can be between univoclity and multivocality and theory and proactive.. |
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| What are the types of tension experienced in dialogue in the article? |
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| The tension between privacy and disclosure. the tension between the otherness of the other and letting them happen to you and holding your own ground. |
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| explain the two concepts "letting the other Happen to Me" and "holding my own ground" |
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Letting the others uniqueness influence you
Asserting yourself and speaking your own mind |
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| What are the two man sources of personal anxiety ? |
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| Having to face the other person and having to face yourself both of which having the potential to disrupt our identity |
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| distinguish between aggressive behavior and assertive behavior |
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Assertive behavior promotes equity without too much anxiety, express honest feelings comfortably, exercise personal rights without denying rights of others.
Aggression is an imbalance in power and a concern for self at the expense of another. |
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| Tension that characterizes dialogue in various contexts. 1. intimate 2. mentoring 3. group decision making. 4. superior-subordinate negotiations, friendships |
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Autonomy <--> connection
Openness <--> privacy
Predictability <--> novelty
Privacy <--> disclosure |
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