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| Arranged marriages generally include |
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| wife’s family gives groom’s family stuff |
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| What culture still does arranged marriages? |
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| parents would allow them to share a bed, but would put a board between them or sew the sheet together to create intimacy. People were realizing that babies were born out of wedlock, so they stopped. |
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| Marriages for love and intimacy |
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| tend to develop love and intimacy before making the committment |
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| people typically within your age range |
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| “Beautiful is better” can seem to equal |
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| What seriously affects our perception of beauty? |
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| researchers will give people a number from 1-10 on attractiveness, put them in a room to mix and mingle, and people will choose people who think they are the same attractiveness |
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| within a short distance at first |
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| being with someone frequently |
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| After proxity and exposure, what else contributes to establishing early intimacy |
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-Approach
-Talk
-Turn and Swivel
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-Synchronization |
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| one will probably move towards the other |
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| start to turn towards each other |
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| typically the female will make that move |
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| their bodies will synchronize in movement |
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| Reciprocation of attraction |
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| if you know someone likes you, you are more likely to see them differently |
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| not sex. It’s learning about people and talking to them. |
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| Who came up with the six styles of love |
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Eros
Ludus
Storge
Mania
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Agape |
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| interested in passion (wears off, mostly in the beginning because cannot sustain the high level of intensity) |
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| extremely jealous, possesive, ect people. Where stalkers would fall |
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| giver, selfless. Everything you do is for that person |
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| How does one of the six styles of love fair by themselves? |
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| Who came up with the triangular theory of love |
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| Three parts of the triangular theory of love |
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| intimacy, passion, and commitment |
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| like the person, know a lot of stuff with each other |
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| example: failed marriage in which they stay in it for the kids |
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| Intimacy, commitment, and passion together make up |
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| the perfect, ultimate love |
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| How much should you reveal about yourself? |
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| Six levels of confidential information to disclose |
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Biographical
Superficial preferences
Goals/aspirations
Religous, spiritual, and philosophical beliefs
Deeply personal and private fears, fantasies, desires, and past experiences
Inner self-concept |
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| Three types of communication |
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validating communication
volatile communication
Conflict-Avoiding Communication |
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| Conflicts resolved through calm discussion and compromise |
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| Solve their conflicts by fighting them out until they reach some conclusion both can accept |
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| Conflict-avoiding communication |
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| just don’t talk about the problem |
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| “The Four Horsemen of the Relationship Apocalypse” |
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Criticism – instead of constructive criticism, they attack and blame them
Contempt
Defensiveness
Stonewalling – not engaging |
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| Notarius and Markman believe that each |
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| relationship contains a reservior of hope |
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| Small changes in you can lead to |
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| huge changes in the relationship |
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| It’s not the differences between partners that cause problems but |
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| how the differences are handled when they arise. |
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| Men and women fight using _______ weapons but suffer ______ wounds |
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| Five ways to enhance intimate communication |
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Make a date – set a time to talk about it
Focus on the problem
Use the “speaker-listener” tools – say your piece and let them say yours
Do not blame or attack
Reserve the right to take a break – if it got too heated, tell them you need to stop. However, DO NOT walk away. Agree we can stop the argument at any time |
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Likes and dislikes, turn-ons and turnoffs
Needs and desires
Fears and concerns
Questions about STI’s
Past positive and negative experiences
Values and morals
Personal conditions for sexual relationship |
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| Six reasons why people may not do sexual self-disclosure |
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Lack of information
Embarrassment
Insecurity about using the right words
Sexual taboos
Fear of judgment
Fear of rejection |
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| 10 reasons people lose love |
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Lack of self-knowledge
Sexual myths and stereotypes
Ineffective communication
Imbalances of decision-making power
Low self-esteem, insecurity and lack of self-confidence
Isolation
Failing to keep promises, lying, cheating
Excessive jealousy
Control issues
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Belittling or humiliating comments
Untrue accusations
Yelling, threats, intimidation, name-calling |
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Control, manipulation
Threaten bodily harm, property damage, injury
Withholding information, sex, help.
Threats of suicide |
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| 8 parts of power and control |
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-possessiveness
-humiliation
-domination
-threats
-physical abuse
-sexual abuse
-intimidation
-minimization and blame |
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| Warning signs of an abusive relationship |
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History of battering
Threats of violence
Breaks or hits objects when angry
Uses force during argument
Displays excessive jealousy
Engages in controlling behavior
Romantically involved quickly
Unrealistic expectations
Isolates partner
Blames others for own problems and feelings
Hypersensitive to criticism
Displays cruelty to animals
“Playful” force in sex
Verbally abusive behavior
Rigid female and male sex roles
“Jekyll and Hyde” mood swings |
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| Cycle of violence and abuse |
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| tension building phase, explosion, honeymoon phase |
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| offers apologies, excuses amends |
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| violence occurs, gets worse after every cycle |
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| Four general guidelines for leaving an abusive relationship |
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Assess abuser’s danger level
Have an escape plan
Create a safety network of trusted people
Obtain court-ordered restraining order that legally requires abuser to stay away from you. |
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