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| Gottman's Four Horseman +1 |
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| criticism, defensiveness, content, stonewalling, +1 Belligerance |
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| Postivite critiscism comments |
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| conversation aimed at conveying information |
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| speaking to gain intimacy |
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| speaking to gain intimacy |
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| directly expressed anger (nagging, nit picking, sarcasim) |
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issues partners are unable, unaware, or unwilling to talk about
Most couples deal with their issus in contet of negative events |
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| Gottman found that the only variable that predicted both marital stability and happiness was the amount of... |
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| positive affect in the conflict |
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| 3 types of saftey through positive communication |
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| commitment, emotional saftey, and personal saftey |
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| verbal/nonverbal agreement |
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| verbal/nonverbal disagreement |
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| 3 obstables to valid hearing |
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| silence, expectations, baggage |
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| 2 barriers to meaningful communication |
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| timing and not letting the situation arise |
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| 3 causes of fear "not letting the situation arise" |
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| anger, lack of energy, wanting to solve the problem |
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| 5 components of fighting fair |
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1. focus on the issue
2. use "i"
3. make it a clear observable behavior
4. show emotion
5. provide a solution |
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| keeping ones grivences secret while tossing them into an imaginary gunnysack growing heavier over time (martyring) |
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| having a child is taken for granted whereas not having a child seems to need a justification |
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| what is the percentage of child free women |
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| happiest time in a marriage |
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| before the first birth and after the last child leaves the nest |
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| 2 key factors of at risk family life |
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| mother's low IQ and early pregnancy (usually=poverty) |
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| True or False: More children decress happiness |
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| in quality daycare they thrive and are more social and independent |
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| authoritarian, laissez faire, authoritative |
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| low on emotional nurturing and support but high on parental direction and control |
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| permissive allowing child to se own boundaries with no parental guidance |
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| warm firm and fair combines emotional nurturing and support with parental discretion |
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| Four types of co parenting |
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| perfect pals (12%), co operative colleagues (38%), angry associates (25%)firery foes (25%) |
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| a law which exists in all 50 states it eliminates legal concepts of guilt and is a symbolic representation of how our society views divorce |
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| employment might contribute to a divorce by giving an unhappily married woman the economic power, the increased independence and self confidence to help her decide on a divorce |
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| intergenerational transmission of divorce |
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| when partners remain married they serve as models of optomism about solving marital problems |
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| exchange theory perspective: |
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| Levinger argues that spouses weigh their marital happiness against both alternative to marriage and barriers to divorce. Affection and economic concerns for children are one thing that may serve as a barrier as well as a strong religious belief agains divorce |
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| emotional, legal, community, psychic |
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| is not reconsiliation. It is giving up the precieved right to get even. Giving up the "you own me" attitude |
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| a good divorce does not end a family it produces a binuclear one (2 houeholds one family) |
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| 5 reasons for negative effects of divorce on children |
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| life stress perspective, parental loss perspective, parental adjusment, economic hardship, parental conflict |
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| is when remarriage is seen as an incomplete situation |
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| white and Booths studies of remarriage |
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| they found that marital quality does not vary greatly between first marriages and single or double remarriages. It is satisfaction with family life that is generally affected |
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| Paperhow's 7 stages of stpe family development |
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1. fantasy
2. immersion
3. awareness
4. mobilization
5. action
6. conflict
7. resolution |
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| 3 main challanges in step families |
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1. financial strains
2. role ambiguity
3. stepchildrens hostility |
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