Inclusion - need for belonging

Affection- need to recieve/give positive emotions to/from others

Control- need to understand and predict our environment

Social support, emotion support, validation of identity, belonging, self esteem from relationshps

-building up of social goods

The people we interact with

-gives us social capital 

Having relationsihps benifit us beause it gives us the opportunity to diclose problems, rewards, etc. 

-relieving stress

Buffer Hypothesis

recieving social support, affection from others benifits us 

-helps create a buffer around us that protects us from stress

Affection-Exchange Hypothesis

communication competence- ability to use effective and appropriate communication

organizing groups- initate groups, leader of the group

negotiating solutions - come up with solutions to conflicts

making personal connections- building of rappot, good relationships

social analysis- being able to disect and analyize social situations, empathy

self- monitoring- understanding and recgonizing own emotional states, expressing emotions in an appropriate way, reflect on own behaviors

Cashier/ customer 

behaviroal interdependence (we effect each others behaviors)

functional

often temporary

straight forward communication

Impersonal Relationships

superifcial

functional

scripted

minimizes personal identites

happens in role relationships

boss/employee

behavioral interdependence

mutual infulence(one persons behavior effects the other)

repeated and unique interactions

best friends

behavioral interdependence

mutual infludence

repeated and unique interactions

emotional attachment

irreplaceability 

Communication is multilayered

Content vs Relational level meaning

Content level meaning- straight forward what is said, surface level meaning

Relational level meaning- the meaning of what is said in /to that particular relationship.

Communication if difficult to avoid

Information vs. Behavior

Information - all stimuli that reduce uncertainty for an organism

Behavior - any (re)action performed by an organism, could be routine, accident, uncontrollable

-percieved as voulantary or other directed 

-message rather than inference

Relationships often have lables, 

relational labels provide relational frame and relational frame provide relational scripts

social disciplining -being told you are wrong

stigma- labled for your actions

regonition of rules

formal punishment

Unconventional 

Disapproved- notable

Disapproved - scandalous

Forbidden

social interaction is the stage

identites are perfomed for audience

Front stage vs. Back stage

We strive to maintain Face via Facework

extension of dramaturgical perspective

everyone has positive face and negative face concert

positive identity you want to portray 

(you want to be seen as a good friend)

what you want to put out

not be bothered, freedom to act in ways we want to act

inward

Face threatening acts

detract from or damage identity

saving face in a small way 

attend to positve face

saving negative gace

give them a chance to say no

less effective 

hinting making joke that you need something

preventative facework

-this may be a dumb question but....

preventative facework disclamer

i took three math classes so i know a little about this

Preventative facework

disclaimers

well since were telling embarassing stories

preventative facework

disclaimer

i know what you are thinking

prevenative facework

disclaimer

before you jump to conclusion

preventative facework

disclaimer

im very tired so dont expect my best

social and cognitive process of assigning meaning to informational cues

selection

organization

interpertation

grouping cues based on what we already know

person characterists continums

physically (tall, short)

psychological (anxious, calm)

interactional (nice, mean)

generalized representation of type of person

(how would you cast a certain type of person for a movie)

generalization representation of sequence of action or interaction 

(ordering foods, gretting friends, proposing marriage)

Bias of person perception 

snap judgement

quick judgement about someone based on very little information 

made using overly simplified cognitive process -no thought

bias in person perceipton

primacy effect

first impression bias 

first impression stick

could have cognitive effort

Biases in person perception

confirmation bias

related to first impresion 

from first impression then selected cues that confirm first impression

ignore cues that counter first impression

bias in person perception 

self fulfilling prophecy

biad in person perception

attribution error

fundamental attribution error- tendency to over estimate internal and underestimate external factors in explainnig others behavior

ultimate attribution error- attributing others negative behavior to internal factors, but attributing other positive behavior

were motivated to reduce unceratainty about others during initial interactions 

-to increase understanding and predictability and to decrease anxiety 

revealing information about oneself 

-reduce uncertainty for the others

-allows for understanding predictability and intimacy

breadth - broad

depth

frequency

duration

valance- positive or negative charge of a self disclousure

veracity - how truthful, honest, accurate in self disclousures

start light

reciprocity

pregoess form narrow to broad and shallow to deep

mostly positive valence in the beginning

state in which we are motivated to think feel and behave positively toward someone

-physical , sexual, social, task