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| based on history, memory, experience and interpretations evoked by momentary aspects of talking and a creation directed by other people, society, and your relationship needs and objective in that context. |
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| Am I competent Am I a good person Am I worthy of love |
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| life and growth are about |
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| Grappling with identity issue |
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| How to “ground your identity” |
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1. By being aware of your own identity issues
and then by complexifying your identity ( adopt the "and" stance) |
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| Three things to accept about yourself |
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| yourself “that you will inevitably make mistakes, that your intentions are complex, and that you have contributed to the problem. Each helps you cope with identity issue that will arise especially in difficult conversations |
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| Identity issues revolve round 3 core issues |
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| competence, being a good person, and being worthy of love. |
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| There are no quick fixes to identity threats but 2 things will help |
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avoid denial and exaggeration.
ground your identity |
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| Ways to ground your identity is |
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| become aware of your own identity issues, another is to complexify your identity. |
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| Three things to remember in issues |
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| you will make mistakes, your intentions are complex, and you have contributed to the problem |
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| A key feature of dialogue is |
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| tensionality= “moments of dialogue emerge most often when the people involved maintain one primary tension—the one between letting the other happen to me while holding my own ground.” |
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| “Letting the other happen to me” is described as |
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| being subject to an experience, experiencing the otherness of the other, and when you allow someone to happen to you, expereincing their differences and letting them connect and influence you. (Stewart, Zediker) |
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| Holding my ground means . |
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| speaks your own mind, or being expressive |
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