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| significant emotional closeness experienced in a relationship |
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| a desire to stay in a relationship |
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| a state in which each person’s behaviors affect everyone else in the relationship |
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| the resources we put into our relationship |
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| conflicts between two important but opposing needs or desires |
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| being in only one romantic relationship at a time avoiding romantic or sexual involvement with others outside the relationship |
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| having romantic or sexual interaction with someone outside of one’s romantic relationship |
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| a practice in which one person is married to two or more spouses at once |
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| the legal discontinuation of a marriage |
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| the family in which one grows up, often consisting of one’s parents and siblings |
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| the family one starts as an adult, often consisting of one’s spouse and children |
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| repetitive behaviors that have special meaning for a group or relationship |
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| the emotional tone of a relationship |
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| behaviors that indicate how much we value another person |
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| behaviors that imply a lack of regard for another person |
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| excessive concern with guarding oneself against the threat of criticism |
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| a person’s feeling of assurance that others care about and will protect him or her |
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| a reply that withholds assessment of what the speaker has said or done |
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| a reply that offers an assessment of what the speaker has said or done |
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| Communication privacy management theory (CPM) |
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| theory that explains how people manage the tension between privacy and disclosure |
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•Partners jointly own the info
•Partners create privacy boundary around this info, and rules for maintaining it
•Relationships become distressed when implicit or explicit privacy rules are violated |
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| what are the 3 parts o Communication privacy management theory? |
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| holds others responsible, but not him/herself |
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| tries to focus attention elsewhere than on conflict |
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•degree of exclusivity (can be negotiated)
•degree of voluntariness
•sexuality (legal issues)
•permanence (expectations about forever) |
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| what are the characteristic of an intimate relationship? |
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validating
volatile
conflict |
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| what are the three conflict styles in a romantic relationship? |
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discuss openly and cooperatively
-stay calm, defuse tensions |
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| what does validating mean in regards to a conflict style? |
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discuss openly and competitively
-each person wants his/her own way to prevail
-often involve fighting/making up |
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| what does volatile mean in regards to a conflict style? |
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avoiding (deal indirectly)
-agree to disagree
-believe that most conflicts will resolve themselves |
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| what does conflict mean in regards to the conflict styles in a romantic relationship? |
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•give sense of history
•reinforce connections across generations
•convey underlying message about the family (family always takes priority) |
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| what do family stories do? |
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•Repetitive activities that have special meaning, reinforce sense of belonging
-How birthdays are celebrated
-How school holidays are spent
-Certain types of gifts |
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| what do family rituals do? |
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•info the family considers private and inappropriate for sharing with outsiders
•keeping these secrets reinforces sense of family identity
-health issues
-legal matters
-finances |
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| what do family secrets do? |
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-initiating stage
-experimenting stage
-intensifying stage
-integrating stage
-bonding stage |
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| what are the five stages of relationship development? |
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| the stage of relationship development when people meet and interact for the first time |
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the stage of relationship development when individuals have conversations to learn more about each other
-Learning basic info, deciding whether to move forward |
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the stage of relationship development when individuals move from being acquaintances to being close friends
-spend time together especially time outside of task that may have brought you together |
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the stage of relationship development when a deep commitment has formed, and there is a strong sense that the relationship has its own identity
-you see yourselves as a couple “we” |
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the stage of relationship development when the partners publicly announce their commitment
-Public commitment/ announcement of plan to stay together- such as getting engaged |
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-differentiating stage
-circumscribing stage
-stagnating stage
-avoiding stage
-terminating stage |
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| what are the five stages of dissolution in a romantic relationship? |
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the stage of relationship dissolution when partners being to see their differences as undesirable or annoying
-Differences seen negatively, annoying no longer “cute” |
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the stage of relationship dissolution characterized by decreased quality and quantity of communication between partners
-Spend more time apart to avoid conflict |
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the stage of relationship dissolution when the relationship stops growing and the partners are barely communicating with each other
-Going through the motions, relationship has completely stalled |
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the stage of relationship dissolution when partners create physical and emotional distance between themselves
-Create distance- make excuses, screen calls, avoid texts |
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the stage of relationship dissolution when the relationship is deemed to be officially over
-Relationship is over, termination event |
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autonomy vs. connection
openness vs. closeness
predictability vs. novelty |
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| what are the three dialectical tensions? |
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| the feeling of wanting to be one’s own person |
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| the desire to be close with others |
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| the desire for disclosure and honesty |
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| the desire to keep certain facts, thoughts, or ideas to oneself |
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| the desire for consistency and stability |
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| the desire for fresh new experiences |
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| the body’s multidimensional response to any event that enhances or inhibits one’s goals |
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| a feeling, often prolonged, that has no identifiable cause |
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| a state of contentment, joy, pleasure, and cheer |
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| the emotion of caring for, feeling attached to, and feeling deeply committed to someone |
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| a secondary emotion consisting of joy and surprise, plus experiences of excitement and attraction for another |
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| a positive overall evaluation of another person |
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| an emotional response to being wronged |
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| a feeling of superiority over, and disrespect for, others |
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| a feeling of revulsion in reaction to something offensive |
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| the perception that the existence or the quality of an important relationship is being threatened by a third party |
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| the desire for something another person has |
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| emotion involving feeling unhappy, sorrowful, and discouraged, usually as a result of some form of loss |
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| a physical illness involving excessive fatigue, insomnia, changes in weight, feelings of worthlessness, and/or thoughts of suicide or death |
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| the emotional process of dealing with profound loss |
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| the mind and body’s reaction to perceived danger |
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| a cluster of neurons in the brain that largely controls the body’s fear response |
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| fear of not making good impression on others |
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| biologically based motives toward specific behavioral responses to emotions |
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| the positivity or negativity of an emotion |
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| distinct emotional experiences not consisting of combinations of other emotions |
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| emotions composed of combinations of primary emotions |
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| an emotion about an emotion |
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| unwritten codes that govern the ways people manage and express emotions |
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| the tendency to mimic the emotional experiences and expressions of others ( Sarah Mclachlan commerical) |
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| the ability to perceive and understand emotions, use emotions to facilitate thought, and manage emotions constructively |
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| the process of changing how one thinks about the situation that gave rise to a negative emotion so that the effect of the emotion is diminished |
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joyful/affectionate
hostile
sad/anxious |
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| what are the three categories of emotion? |
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-happiness (approach and connect)
-love/passion
-liking
(all of these motivate us to seek the company of others) |
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-anger
-contempt
-disgust
-jealousy
-envy |
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-sadness (loss)
-depression- chemical condition/ medical
-grief ( deep sadness/ profound loss)
-fear (amygdala) |
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-physiological
-cognitive
-behavioral
-social/cultural |
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| what are the multiple dimensions of emotions? |
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| heart rate, breath, blood chemistry |
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| action tendencies (withdraw or attack) |
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| disgust, disappointment, shame, embarrassment |
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•Intensification (exaggerate up)
•De-intensification (exaggerate down)
•Simulation (pretending emotion when indifferent/ emotionless)
•Inhibition (pretending to be indifferent when really emotional)
•Masking ( expressing something when your feeling something else- 2 different emotions) |
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| what are the five different display rules and what do they mean? |
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•culture drives how we display emotion
-Collectivistic- suppress display of negative emotions towards others
-Individualistic- more free to display negative emotions
•Some ethnics/ social groups are more expressive than others |
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| how are display rules driven by culture? |
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• Channel- lean (texting)
• Needs rich description
o Emotional identical
o Physical sensation
o Parallels and analogies |
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-hearing
-undestanding
-remembering
-interpreting
-evaluating
-responding |
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| what does the HURIER model stand for? |
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| Listening with the goal of evaluating or analyzing what one hears |
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| watching commercials- if we want to buy the product |
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| what is an example of critical listening? |
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| Listening in order to experience what another person is thinking or feeling |
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| listening to learn something |
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| taking notes in class, watching the news *passive process |
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| what is an example of informational listening? |
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| physical process of perceiving sound |
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| comprehend the meaning of words and phrases |
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| storing and retrieving info in memory |
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| 1. 2 parts: pay attention to verbals and nonverbal so you can assign meaning/ signal to speaker your interpretation of the message |
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| Judging accuracy, separating fact from opinion; considering context |
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| (silence); Responding with silence and a lack of facial expression |
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| Nodding your head or using facial expressions, vocalizations such as "uh-huh," and verbal statements such as "I understand." Lets the speaker know you're paying attention. |
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| Restating in your own words to show the speaker that you understand |
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| Conveying to the speaker that you understand and share his or her feelings on the topic |
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| Expressing your agreement with the speaker's opinion or point of view |
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| Providing your own perspective on what the speaker has said |
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| Communicating advice to the speaker about what he or she should think feel, or do |
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| Active process of making meaning out of another person’s spoken message. Active, not passive. Meaning making= Interpretation |
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| Pretending to pay attention by using feedback behaviors |
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| Hearing only what we want to hear |
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| Tendency to debate a speaker’s point and formulate a reply while the person is still speaking |
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| Using interruptions to take control of a conversation |
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| The state of being overwhelmed by the amount of information one takes in |
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| Daydreaming during the time not spent listening |
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| The tendency not to listen to anything with which one disagrees |
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| The tendency to pay attention only to information that supports one’s values and beliefs while ignoring information that doesn’t |
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| The tendency for dramatic, shocking events to distort one’s perception of reality |
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| The practice of evaluating the evidence for a claim |
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| A hypothesis that says each of us is born with fundamental drive to seek, form, maintain and protect strong social relationships |
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| Communication behaviors that signal one’s interest in getting to know someone |
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| Communication behaviors that signal one’s lack of interest in getting to know someone |
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| relational maintenance behaviors |
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| Behaviors used to maintain and strengthen personal relationships |
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-positivity
-openness
-assurances
-social networks
-sharing tasks |
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| what are the 5 primary relational maintenance behaviors? |
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| someone of similar power or status |
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-A theory that explains why individuals are drawn to others
-We are attracted by appearance, proximity, similarity, and complementarity |
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1.Physical attraction- looks, appearance
2.Social attraction- bubbly, sarcastic, etc.
3.Task attraction- abilities; competence/dependability (Example: group projects) |
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| what are the 3 elements of attraction |
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-appearance
-proximity
-similarity
-complementarity
-cultural influences |
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| what are the characteristics of attraction? |
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| biological programming and social motions of attractiveness and personal preferences |
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| biological programming and social validation |
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| "opposites attract” positive take on differences |
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| social notions of what makes an attractive mate/friend |
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| uncertainty reduction theory |
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| A theory suggesting that people are motivated to reduce their uncertainty about others |
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1.Interpersonal uncertainty is unpleasant
2.We are motivated to reduce it (explain and predict)
3.We do this passively (observe), actively (manipulate environment or seek information) or interactively (communicate directly)
4.SPT (social penetration theory)-onion-layers |
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| what are the four different parts of the uncertainty reduction theory? |
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| social penetration theory |
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Definition
| Predicts that as relationships develop, communication increases in breadth and depth. (Onion metaphor: public, personal, inner core.) |
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| predicted outcome value theory |
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| A theory predicting that we form relationships when we think the effort will be worth it |
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1.We try to predict (forecast) the benefits and costs of interaction based on limited experience with the other
2.If benefits outweigh the costs, we approach (signals of interest)
3.How do we predict? What factors do we weigh in predicting? (role of past experiences (bad dates video) |
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| what are the three parts of the predicted outcome value theory? |
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| A theory predicting that people seek to form and maintain relationships in which the benefits outweigh the costs |
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| a person’s realistic expectation of what the person wants and thinks he or she deserves from a relationship |
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| comparison level for alternatives |
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| a person’s assessment of how good his or her current relationship is, compared with other options |
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| A theory predicting that a good relationship is one in which a person's ration of costs and rewards is equal to that of the person's partner |
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| receiving more that you are giving |
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| giving more than you are receiving |
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1. role
2. friendly relations
3.move towards friendship
4. nascent friendship
5.stabilized friendship
6. waning friendship |
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| what are the six stages of friendship? |
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| limited interaction: communication follows social and cultural norms and is polite, impersonal |
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| conversation becomes friendlier. May share personal stories. Interaction can be to pass time or invite deeper friendship |
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| communication becomes more social, less bound by social and cultural norms |
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| begin to think of themselves as friends. Communication becomes more personal |
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| friendship is considered to be fully established |
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| decline of a friendship. Conversation may be more distant and casual |
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1.they are voluntary
2. they are usually between peers (someone of similar power or status)
3. they are governed by rules
4. they differ by sex |
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Definition
| what are characteristics of a friendship? |
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Definition
| explicit friendship rules are _________. |
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| implicit friendship rules are an ________ |
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1. expressed struggle
2. between 2 interdependent parties
3. perceive incompatible goals
4. perceive scarce resources
5. perceive interference (obstacle) from other party |
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| define interpersonal conflict (5) |
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Definition
| The knowing and intentional transmission of information to create a false belief in the hearer |
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1.The sender must know the information is false
2.The sender must be transmitting the information on purpose
3.The sender must be attempting to make the receiver believe the information |
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Definition
| what are the elements of deception? |
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| Forms of deception that involve fabricating info or exaggerating facts for the purpose of misleading others |
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| Presenting false, fabricated information as though it were true |
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| inflating ot overstating facts |
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| Forms of deception that involve omitting certain details that would change the nature of the story if they were known |
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| Leaving consequential details out of one’s story |
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| Giving vague or ambiguous information to create false impression |
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Definition
| The tendency to believe what someone says, in the absence of a reason not to |
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Term
| motivation impairment effect |
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Definition
| A hypothesis that motivation to succeed in life will impair a deceiver’s verbal performance, making the lie less likely to be believed |
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| A context for communicating in which participants can see or hear each other and react to each other in real time |
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Term
| face-to-face conversation, telephone conversation |
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Definition
| what is an example of interactive context? |
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| A context for communicating in which the participants cannot react to each other in real time |
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| voice mail message, e-mail |
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Definition
| what is an example of non interactive context? |
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Definition
| are those for which the penalties for getting caught are severe |
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1.Forging signatures
2.Impersonating a physician, police officer or other professional
3.Using privileged information to make stock sales or purchases
4.Underreporting your income tax or tax returns
5.Filing false insurance claims |
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Definition
| what are examples of high stake lies? |
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| Penalties for getting caught are comparatively mild; “white lies” |
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1.Telling a friend you “love the graduation gift” when you don’t like it
2.Assuring someone it’s “no problem” even though it is an inconvenience for you
3.Claiming you were late because you “ran into heavy traffic” but you actually left the house late
4.Saying “nice to meet you” even if you had a bad first impression |
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Definition
| what are examples of low stake lies? |
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Term
-content
-relational
-procedural |
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Definition
| what are the dimensions of conflict? |
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Term
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Definition
| the topic of the conflict, what is the conflict about |
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Definition
| how does this dispute affect the relationship of the people involved |
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Definition
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1.Personal criticism
2.Finances/money- marriages
3.Household chores
4.Time |
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Definition
| what are the common sources of interpersonal conflict in relationships? |
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Term
1.Sex/gender
2.Culture
3.Online interactions- disinhibition |
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Definition
| what are the common sources of interpersonal conflicts in relationships affected by? |
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Term
1.criticism
2. defensiveness
3. contempt
4. stonewalling |
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Definition
| What are the four strategies for managing interpersonal conflict? |
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Term
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Definition
| Stating the problem in the relationship as the defect of the partner |
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Definition
-Anyway of warding off a perceived attack
-“It’s not my fault, it’s your fault”
-Whining- present themselves as innocent victim |
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Definition
-Any statement you make to your partner from a superior place
-Direct insults and name calling
-Correcting someone’s grammar when they’re angry with you |
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Definition
-Listener withdrawal
-Doesn’t give usual cues listeners give |
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Term
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Definition
| what are strategies for managing interpersonal conflict? |
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Term
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Definition
| A strategy for managing conflict in which one’s goal is to win while the other party loses |
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Definition
| A strategy for managing conflict that involves ignoring or failing to deal with the conflict |
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Definition
| Allowing the other person to have their way |
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Definition
| both parties gave something up |
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Definition
| Win-win trying to find a solution |
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Term
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Definition
| the ability to manipulate, influence, or control people/events |
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Term
reward
coercive
referent
legitimate
expert |
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Definition
| what are the five different forms of power? |
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Definition
-When one of the relational partners has the ability to reward
-Buy me flowers, I give you love and affection |
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Definition
-Ability to punish somebody
-Take away cell phone, car keys |
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Definition
-The attraction or desirability of relational partner that holds some form of power over you
-Celebrity endorsement- figure that we hold in high regard |
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-Power that one has based on their position or title
-Authority granted to them that we as a society accept to be true
-Contextual- power is in the position |
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Definition
-Power derived from knowledge or skills that individual has that exceed our own
-We listen to a Doctor because we know he has years of medical training and education |
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Definition
| A pattern of behaving vengefully while denying that one has aggressive feelings |
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Term
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Definition
| A pattern of behavior in which one party makes demands and the other party withdraws from the conversation |
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Term
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Definition
| The tendency to say or do things in one environment (such as online) that one would not say or do in most other environments |
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Term
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Definition
| A verbal message through which the speaker attempts to exert dominance or gain control over the listener |
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Term
| “Stop making so much noise!” |
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Definition
| what is an example of a one-up message? |
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Term
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Definition
| A verbal message that reflects acceptance of, or submission to, another person’s power |
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Term
| “Do you have any suggestions on what I should wear tonight?” |
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Definition
| what is an example of a one-down message? |
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Term
| "Dad needs a new lawn mower” |
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Definition
| what is an example of a one-across message? |
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Definition
| A verbal message that seeks to neutralize relational control and power |
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