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| Relational Transgressions |
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| violations of implicit of explicit rules between people in relationships |
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| unspoken agreements about what is expected from each person in the relationsihp |
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verbally stated
rules like agreements about monogamy or honesty |
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Intimate partner violence
(IPV) |
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| is abuse that occurs between people in a close relationship |
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| Four types of IPV (intimate partner violence) behavior |
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Physical abuse
Sexual abuse
threats of physical or sexual abuse
emotional abuse |
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3 reactions people have when their partner delivers a hurtful message
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invulnerable responses
acquiescent responses
active verbal responses |
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| indirect, such as ignoring the message, laughing, or being silent |
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| direct or indirect, can include crying, conceding, or apologizing |
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| verbal and direct, which can include counterattacks, self-defense statements, sarcastic statements, and demands for explanations |
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often called concealment
involves intentionally holding back some of the info another person has requested or that your are expected to share
not telling your wife you had dinner with ex |
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| the intentional presentation of false info |
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| three types of deception (commission) |
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exaggeration- aka embellishing, one makes a smaller or bigger claim than what is true
white lies
bald-faced lies |
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| concern for other people that overrides concern for oneself |
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a message that one person's expectations have been violated
when asked to explain a relational transgression the offender will usually respond with an account |
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account
when asked to explain a relational transgression the offender will usually respond with an account
3 main ways in which people express an account |
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Justifications
Excuses
Apologies |
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Types of rewards and consts
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immediate
forecasted
cumulative
expected |
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| Immediate rewards and costs |
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| rewards and costs that occur in a relationsip at the present moment in time |
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| forecasted rewards and costs |
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| rewards and costs that are based on projection or prediction of future events |
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| Cumulative rewards and costs |
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| the total rewards and costs that we have accrued during the duration of the relationship |
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| expected rewards and costs |
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| the expectations we hold about how rewarding a relationship should be |
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| both parties are predisposed to ending the relationship and simply need to go over the details |
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| only one person desireds the breakup |
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| information exchange decreases in both breadth and depth |
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communication is scripted
predictable and habitual patters |
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Knapps model of De-escalation
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1. Differentiating
2. circumscribing
3. stagnating
4. avoiding
5. terminating |
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| one partner reaches a threshold of dissatisfaction and starts to focus on the other's problematic personality traits and negative behaviors in order to gather evidence that will ultimately justify withdrawing from the relationship |
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| one or both person's internal contemplations about the relationship turn into an actual confrontation |
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| members of the dyad begin to inform the members of their social circle that things are not going well |
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where one or both partners create the "tombstone" of the relationship
telling how and why it ended and making summarizing statements about it |
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| asuggests that your relationship with your primary caregiver as a child shapes the relationships you have with your significant others as an adult |
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| usually results from a history of warm and responsive interactions with parents, and consequently relationship partners |
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| dismissing attachment style |
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people who desire a high level of independence and tend to seek less intimacy with relationship partners
often avoid attachment |
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| preoccupied attachment style |
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people who seek high levels of intimacy, approval and responsiveness from their partners, results in over-dependency
less self-secure |
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mixed feelings about close relationships
desire emotionally close relationships, but tend to fell uncomfortable
negative views of themselves and their partner
aka preoccupied |
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| expectancy violation theory |
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suggests that people develop expectations about the verbal and nonverbal communication of others, and when these expectations are violated it causes attention to become hyper-focuses on the communicator and the relationship
expectations shape perception |
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