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aka proximity
physical or geographical accessibility |
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| the more exposure we have to a stimulus, the more positively we evaluate it |
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we are conditioned to like people who validate and support our pre-conceived notions of the world and how it works
we like people who reinforce our values, beliefs, and attitudes |
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| quasi-courtship behaviors |
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nonverbal body movements
4 phases
1. courtship readiness
2. preening behaviors
3. positional cues
4. direct appeals to invitation |
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| demonstration of confident behavior |
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manipulating our appearance
combing hair, makeup, straightening tie |
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| use our positioning and body orientation to be seen and noticed by others |
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| direct appeals to invitation |
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close proximity
exposed skin
eye contact |
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| we are attracted to those who send messages of being approachable |
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Uncertainty reduction theory
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| suggests that a primary motivation for most of our interactions is to reduce uncertainty about the world around us |
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| 3 ways to gather information to reduce uncertainty |
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passibe observation
active observation
direct interaction |
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| gathering information by simply watching |
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| directly asking others about the target person |
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| asking the target direct questions to learn more about him or her |
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| Process of moving through the stages of Knapps staircase model toward interpersonal intamacy |
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Knapps staircass model
Upward, bottom to top |
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1.Initiating
2. experimenting
3.intensifying
4. integrating
5. bonding
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Knapps staircase model
Downward, top to bottom |
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1. Differentiating
2. circumscribing
3. stagnating
4. avoiding
5. terminating |
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verbal introductions
scripted, superficial |
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scipted intros become like real convos
some self-disclosure |
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| process of revealing personal info to the other for the purpose of developing intamacy and understanding |
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self-disclosure
3 qualifications
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1. the info must be directly and intentionally revealed
2. it must be personal and private
3. it must be info the other person would not know if they had not been told |
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| computer mediated communication |
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| Social penetration theory |
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| states that as a relationship develops, the partners share more aspects of the self through an exchange of info, fellings, and activities |
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array of variety of topics
# of topics that are shared |
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| amount of info shared about each topic |
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relationship is important and significant to both members
nonverbal behaviors evolve
no longer in interviewing mode
couple is physically closer and they touch more
pet names, inside jokes. possible "i love you" |
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| couples relate by mirrioring the posture or other bodily movements of the other |
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Eros
Mania
Ludus
Storge
Pragma
Agape |
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love style characterized by a passionate physical and emotional love
stereotype of romantic love by media |
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A highly volatile love verging on obsession, which is fueled by low self esteem
emotional roller coaster |
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a style of love that is played as a game, sport or conquest
lovers are easily bored and move to the next target |
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love style characterized by rationality and good decision-making
directed by the head, not heart |
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selfless, altruistic love
such as love a mother feels for a child
spritual and care-taking in nature |
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clear social unit, clearer role definition, more public
social circles and family may blend
both may start to dress, sound, talk and look alike
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characterized by a social commitment and/or ritual that signifies the intention to continue the relationship indefinitely
can be signified by buying a home together, having a child
friendships can also reach the bonding stage, "blood brothers" |
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| Relational dialectics theory |
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| suggests that as partners increase their intimacy it becomes more important to be aware of and manage the naturally occuring tensions in the relationship |
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| the need for personal autonomy (independence) and the need for connection with the other are often in competition causing conflict in a relationship |
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sometimes we want to self disclose informatione
other times we want to keep stuff private |
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sometimes we want something constant, that we can predict and count on
other times we want something new and exciting |
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| 3 dialectical tensions on a relationship |
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autonomy vs connection
privacy vs transparency
novelty vs predictability |
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methods for managing dialectical tensions
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denial
disorientation
selection
alternation
segmentation
moderation
reframing
reaffirmation |
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| refusing to admit that there is a tension |
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| becoming overwhelmed by and hopeless about the tension |
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| choosing one end of the dialectic to focus on |
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| alternating between two ends of the dialectic at different times |
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compartmentalizing the dialects
sticking to one end for certain situations and another end for other situations |
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| finding a middle ground between the two tensions |
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| choosing to view the tension as an opportunity for change and growth |
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| allowing the tension to exist while affirming that it does not threaten the relationship |
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