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Interpersonal Power
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Power exists in all relationships
Power derives from an individual
Power comes from both partners, either both want it or both avoid it
Power comes from on person who wants the control
Power shifts from and back between people |
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| Relationship of Circumstance |
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| not that we choose them but because our live overlap with other lives in some way. Ex's family members, teachers, classmates, coworkers |
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Relationship we intentionally seek out and develop.
Ex's friends, lovers, spouses and counselors. |
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| complementary relationship |
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| one partner usually dominates or makes most of the decisions |
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| both partners behave toward power the same way, either both wanting it or both avoiding it |
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| competitive symmetrical relationship |
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| exists when both people via for power and control of decision making |
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| Submissive symmetrical relationship |
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| When neither partner want to take control or make decisions |
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| shifting back and forth of power between the partners |
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| Degree to which you want to form or maintain an interpersonal relationship |
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| short term ititial attractions |
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| sense a potential for developing a interpersonal relationship |
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| Long term maintance attraction |
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| liking or positive feelings that make us want to maintain or escalate a relationship |
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| predicted outcome valve (POV) |
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| potential for a relationship to confirm our self image compared to its potential costs |
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| nearness to another that promotes communication and attraction |
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| nonverbal cues that allow us to assess relationship potential |
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| we like those who like us |
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| we like those that have the same personality, valves, upbringing, personal experiences, attitudes and interests like us |
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| Need that match, each partner contributes something |
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| movement of a relationship from one stage to another, either toward or away from intimacy |
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| specific event or interactions that does with positive or negative change in relationship |
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| event that brings about a change in a relationship |
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| Event that signals a change in a way a relationship is defined |
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| Movement of a relationship toward intimacy through five stages: preinteraction awarness, acquanintance, exploration, intensifications and intimacy |
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| Types of relationships of Escalation stages (going up) |
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Best friend/ Lover and spouce - Intimacy
Close friend-intensifications
friend-exploratons
acquaintance-acquaintance
Stranger-Preinteraction awareness |
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| Types of relationships- De-escalations stages (going down) |
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Best friend, Love, Spouse - Turmoil or Stagnations
Close friend-Deintensifications
Friend-Individulization
Stranger- post-separations effects |
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| movement of relationship away from intimacy through 5 stages: turmoil or stagnation, deintensifications, individuization, separaion and post-separation |
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| relationship not going well |
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| decreasing interactions, increasing physical and emotional distance |
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| define lives as individual than as partners |
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| decision to eliminator or minimize further interpersonal interaction |
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| The lasting effects of the old relatonship on yourself |
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| theory that people make decisions by assessing and comparing costs and rewards |
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| Immediate rewards and costs |
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| occur in relationship in present moment. Can think about your current relationship and assess their immediate valve |
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| Forcasted rewards and costs |
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| based on projection of prediction. Guesses about a potential relationship or its future outlook |
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| Preinteractions awareness |
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| First stage, observe someone or ask others about that person, gain information |
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| Acuaintance in Escalation stage (going up) |
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| interact with a person, conversations stick with safe topics and you present a public self to other person |
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| Exploration in Escalation (going up) |
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| share more in depth information about yourselves. |
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| Intensifications in Escalation (going up) |
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| depend more on each other, spend more time together, more physical contact |
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| Intimacy in Escatlaion (going up) |
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| Top floor, turn to each other for confirmation and acceptance, talk about anything and everything, Might lead to marriage |
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| Cumulative rewards and costs |
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| represent the total rewards and costs accrued over durations of a relationship. Thinking about staying in a relationship in its low end or end relationship |
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| relational development occurs in conjunction with various tensions that exist in all relationships. Forces pulling us to intimacy or opposing forces pulling us to independence. |
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| Three dalectical tensions |
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Connectedness versus autonomy
Predictability versuse novelty (certainty versus uncertainty)
Openness versus Closedness |
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| Theory that people make relationship decisions by assessing and comparing the costs and rewards. Rewards are the positive outcomes and the Costs are the negative outcomes. |
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| Violations of understandings that occur between people in interpersonal relationships. |
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| an unspoken compact between the partners about the relationship and each other. Ex, private information you shared with someone was shared by that person you told that info to. |
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| stated compacts and agreements. Ex.your roommate says they will clean up the apartment over the weekend and fails to do so. |
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| a message that a failure event has occurred.Reproaches are usually direct statements they can be also convey indirect through hints or nonverbal messages. Ex. A friend forgot your birthday, you act cold and distant. Reproaches range from mitigating (mild) to aggravationg (threatening and severe) |
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| Response to a reproach. Accounts people offer in one of fiver forms. Apologies, Excuses, Justifications, Denials, Absence of an account. |
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| Apologies: include admission to failure event. Excuses:include admission to failure event, coupled with a contentions that nothing could be done to prevent failure. Justifications involve accepting responsibility for event but saying the event as not a failure. Denilas:statements that failure never took place. Absence of an account: or silence ignoring a reproach or refusing to address it. |
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| Deception by Omission (Concealment) |
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| Intentionally holding back some of the information another person has requested or that you are expected to share. |
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| Statements are true but not completely true - only half true. |
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| Deception by Omission (Concealment) |
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| Intentionally holding back some of the information another person has requested or that you are expected to share. |
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| Deliberate presentation of false information-Lying. |
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| Types of deceptions by commission |
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| White lies-Slight degree of lying that has minimal consequence.Exaggeration-stretching the truth or embellishing the facts. Ex. Telling someone you were at the library for hours when only there for 20 mins. Baldfaced Lies- are straight out lies of information intended to deceive the listener. |
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| Reactive statements made in response to a hurtful message. Ex. counterattacks, self-defense statements, sarcastic comments, and demands for explanation |
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| Crying, conceding or apologizing in response to a hurtful message. |
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| Ignoring, laughing, or being silent in response to a hurtful message. |
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| Obsessive relational intrusion (ORI) |
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| Repeated invasion of a person's privacy by a stranger or acquaintance who desires or assumes a close relationship. |
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| A model for ending relationships |
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| Ending a relationship,Intrapsychic phrase:First phase of termination of relationship -internal evaluation of partner.Dyadic phase:when individual discusses termination with partner. Social Phase:social network of the both parties are informed of and become involved in terminations process. Grave-dressing phase:final phase in relationship when partners generate public explanations and move past relationship. |
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| Strategies for Ending relationships |
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Indirect termination strategies:attempts to break up a relations w/o explicitly stating the desire to do so.
Direct termination strategies: involves explicit statements of a desire to break up the relationship. |
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| Indirect Termination Strategies |
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| 3 indirect stragteies us to disengage: withdrawal, pseudo-de-escalations and cost escalatio. Withdrawal: reducing the amount of contact. Pseusdo-de-ecalation:redefine the relationship.Cost escalations:increase the cost there by having the other person ending relationship. |
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| Direct Termination Strategies |
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| Negative Identity managemnt:direct statement to end relationship. justifications:clear statement to end with an honest explanation.De-escalation:Honest statement to redefine relationship at a lower level of intimacy or move to end.Positive tone:Direct stratey that most sensenitive to others person sense of self. |
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| Natural or Nuclear family, Extended family, family of Orgin and Blended Family |
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| Natural or Nuclear family |
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| a mother, father, and bio kids. |
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| Additional relatives, some extended family members |
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| overlaps with others. family you were raised in. |
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| Two adults, more than two children come together due to divorce, re-married, separation, death or adoption |
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| Implied or explicit promise of reward in exchange for secual favors or threat of retaliatins if sexual favors are withheld. Quid pro Quo means You do something for me and I'll do something for you. |
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| Six types of love: Eros is sexual love, Ludis is a love of a game. Storge is sort of love found in most friendships within families and siblings, Mania is love that goes high and low. Pragma is pratical love. Agape is spiritual love like a preist or spiritual leader. |
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| Triangular theory of love |
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| Theory that suggests that all loving relatinships can be describe into 3 dimensions: Intimacy, commitment and passion |
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