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| a blended emotion that consists of surprise and joy |
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| what else can passion be coupled with, besides joy and passion? |
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| excitement, amazement, and sexual attraction. |
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| early stages of romantic relationships often involve intense ______ |
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| true or false: passion and love are synonymous. |
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| false! they are very different |
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| in terms of passion, what happens the longer and better you know someone? (2) |
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1. the less passion you'll feel toward them on a day to day basis
2. the more extreme and unexpected the event has to be in order to trigger passion. |
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| true of false: passion can be planned |
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| example showing how passion cannot be planned |
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| Steve and Kelly's amazing weekend getaway was "nice", but Kelly randomly visiting was exciting. |
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| in long term relationships you can often feel more passion toward _____ than ______ |
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| others; your romantic partner |
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| what is the best way to kill a crush? |
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| Will you ever get your relationship back to "the way it was"? |
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| No. so bask in the "warm after glow" |
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| example illustrating "chasing passion" |
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| cocker spaniel chasing it's tail. |
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| passion will ________ over time |
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| in class example illustrating suppression/catharsis |
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| Steve's drunk story "puke her out!!" |
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| biggest misconception about jealousy? |
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| Jealousy is NOT related to self esteem |
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| Jealousy is derived from the ____ word _____ |
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| fervent, devotion to a person or object. |
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| Envy is derived from the ___ word _____ |
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to look up with malice
--> comes from wanting something you don't have. |
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| a PROTECTIVE REACTION to a PERCEIVED THREAT to a VALUED RELATIONSHIP |
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| jealousy is a combination of what negative emotions? |
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| what are the three dimensions of jealousy according to phiffer and wang? |
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| Cognitive, behavioral, and emotional. |
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| define: cognitive jealousy |
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| thoughts, worries, suspicious about others such as "the ex" |
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| define: behavior jealousy |
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| actions such as email checking or constant facebooking, etc. |
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| define: emotional jealousy |
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emotional/physiological reaction, occurs independent of conscious appraisal of threat.
-->it is a reflex, not thinking. |
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| in class example illustrating emotional jealousy |
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| "the book", caused by perceptual error. |
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| in class example of something not to do when partner is jealous.. |
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| Kelly's "jealousy dance" when Steve was mad because her ex, Matt, made her laugh |
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| two things that MUST BOTH occur in order for someone to feel jealousy. |
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1. issue must be self defining.
2. there must be a discrepancy between self and ideal self for the self defining issue. |
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| why was Steve not jealous when Kelly talked to attractive or smart guys? |
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| He does not see his appearance as self defining & he is content with how intelligent he is. |
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| what are the three strategies for managing jealousy? |
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| self reliance, self bolstering, selective ignoring. |
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| define the self reliant jealousy management strategy |
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for you: continue current activities and stay/restore cool before you deal with activity.
for partner: "i'm ready to talk when you are. i'm here for you" |
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| define the self bolstering jealousy management strategy |
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for you: think happy thoughts!
aka the sound of music strategy.
for partner: "i'm sorry, i love you, you're the one" |
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| define the selective ignoring jealousy management strategy |
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for you: minimize or reevaluate importance, try to tell self it is not a big deal.
for partner: why are you so mad? it's not a big deal. |
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| rank the jealousy management strategies from best to worst |
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1. Self reliance
2. Selective ignoring
3. Self bolstering |
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| explain online empathy deficits. |
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| people communicating online experience dramatic online deficits similar to people with brain injuries that affect emotional perception. |
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| why do people have online empathy deficits? |
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| the orbitalfrontal cortex tracks feedback AND controls empathy. |
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| why do people choose online communication for hard conversations? |
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| then they don't have to FEEL/see the persons potentially negative reaction, therefore they don't feel bad. |
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| true or false: our ability to receive feedback does not affect our ability to empathize. |
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| FALSE. when feedback is removed, our ability to feel empathy and modulate behavior is also affected. |
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| what are the outcomes of online empathy deficit? |
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can result in "flaming": inappropriate and offensive messages.
also, expect that people will express themselves online in ways that they never would when interacting in person. |
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| Kelly's example of fighting with "Screech" at a basketball game illustrates... |
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| competition and how it can escalate. |
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| accommodation conflict handling |
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| one person abandons his/her goals for another. |
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| preventing unwanted emotions by intentionally devoting your attention to only aspects of an event that you know will not provoke those emotions. |
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| avoidance conflict handling |
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| ignoring a conflict, pretending it isn't really happening or communicating indirectly about the situation. |
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| two or more primary emotions experienced at the same time. |
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| within the field of interpersonal communication, the assumption that openly expressing emotions enables you to purge them |
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| a persistent state of simmering or barely suppressed anger and constant negative thinking. |
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| collaboration conflict handling |
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| treating the conflict as a mutual problem-solving challenge. |
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| competition conflict handling |
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| open and clear discussion of the goal clash that exists and the pursuit of one's own goals without concern for others goals |
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| complementary relationships |
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| relationships characterized by an unequal balance of power |
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| when, during a conflict, both parties change their goals to make them compatible. |
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| the process that occurs when people perceive that they have incompatible goals or that someone is interfering in their ability to achieve their objectives. |
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| a buildup of repressed irritations that grows as the mental list of grievances we have against our partner grows. |
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| truthful but destructive messages used deliberately to hurt someone else during a conflict. |
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| cultural norms about which forms emotion management and communication are socially desirable and appropriate. |
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| intense REACTION to an event that involves interpreting the meaning of the event, becoming physiologically aroused, labeling the experience as emotional, attempting to manage your reactions, and communicating this reaction in the form of emotional displays and disclosures. |
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| the rapid spreading of emotion from person to person, such as anger running through a mob. |
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| the ability to accurately interpret your and others' emotions and use this information to manage emotions, communicate them competently, and solve relationship problems. |
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| attempts to influence which emotions you have, when you have them, and how you experience and express them. |
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| disclosing your emotions to others |
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| preventing unwanted emotions by keeping away from people, places, and activities likely to provoke them |
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| preventing unwanted emotions by intentionally avoiding discussion of different topics in encounters with others. |
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| short term emotional reactions to events that generate only limited arousal |
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| intense sadness that follows a substantial loss |
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| when, during a conflict, the two sides preserve and attain their goals by developing a creative solution to their problem |
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power that comes from sharing a close bond with someone that no one else shares.
--> IPC on the psychological level |
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| strategy to manage anger that involves slowly counting to 10 before responding to someone who does or says something that makes you angry |
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| a response to a conflict in which combatants hurl insults and accusations at each other that have very little to do with the original disagreement |
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| low intensity states of mind that are not caused by particular events and typically last longer than emotions. |
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| power that comes from personal characteristics that others admire such as intelligence, physical beauty, charm etc. |
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| the ability to influence or control events or people |
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| control over a resource that others value |
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| degree to which people in a culture view the unequal distribution of power as acceptable. |
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six emotions that involve unique and consistent behavioral displays across cultures
--> anger, disgust, fear, joy, sadness, and surprise. |
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| a mistaken perception that a conflict exists when it doesn't |
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| Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy |
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| a therapy developed by psych Albert Ellis that helps neurotic patients systematically purge themselves of the tendency to think negative thoughts about themselves. |
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| reactivity conflict handling |
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| not pursuing conflict-related goals at all and communicating in an emotionally explosive and negative fashion instead |
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| actively changing how you think about the meaning of emotion-eliciting situations so that their emotional impact is changed. |
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| power that comes from controlling material items others want or need such as money, food, property etc. |
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| a sudden withdrawal of one person from a situation during a conflict. |
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| a series of unresolved disputes, all having to do with the same issue |
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| a way of avoiding conflict by changing the topic or joking about it |
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| a way of avoiding conflict by communicating in a negative fashion and then abandoning the encounter by physically leaving the scene or refusing to interact any further |
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| power that comes from being linked with a network of friends, family, and acquaintances with substantial influence |
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| when people agree to change their basic rules or understandings that governs their relationship to prevent further conflict. |
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| messages, communicated at the height of a conflict, that suddenly declare the end of a relationship, even if it wasn't an option before. |
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| sharing messages that express emotional support and that offer personal assistance |
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| inhibiting thoughts, arousal, and outward behavioral displays of emotion |
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| symmetrical relationships |
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| relationships characterized by an equal balance of power. |
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| how do social exchange theorists view interpersonal relationships? |
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| economic exchange of resources |
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| SET 1. human relationships are defined by outcome ___________ |
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| SET 2. People form and continue relationships that they view as _______ |
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| SET 3. individuals in relationships are compelled to ______ ________ in order to assure future receipt of _______ |
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| reciprocate rewards; rewards |
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| SET 4. A _______ of rewards can be exchanged |
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| variety --> Steve simply sitting on the couch with Kelly. just his presence is rewarding for her |
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| SET 5. what is ______ as a ______ _______ is determined by the individuals in the relationship. |
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perceived; valued resource.
-->can't tell someone what to do in their relationship because you don't perceive things equally |
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| SET 6. The distribution of valued resources is rarely ___________. |
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HAPPY!
you're more than what i deserve & no better options :) |
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unhappy, but stable
what you're getting is not what you deserve, but there are no better options |
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unstable, but HAPPY.
partner gives you more than what you deserve, but there are a lot of good alternatives. |
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unhappy, unstable.
you deserve better and have better options. |
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