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| refers to geographic closeness |
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| what effect does propinquity have on attraction? |
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| you will tend to be attracted to those you are around more often and less attracted to those you are around less |
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| research supports the idea that similarity increases attraction. known as the ____________ effect |
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| 3 qualifications for the BOF effect (birds of a feather) |
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1. perceived similarity does not equal actual similarity
2. only applies if it is a quality you like about yourself
3. different types of similarity influence attraction differently |
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| what are the three different types of similarity, according to Neimeyer & Mitchell? |
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| Attitude, personality, and values. |
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| ATTITUDE similarity consists of |
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tastes and preferences, superficial. LIGHT level.
-->food, movie, TV etc. can change. |
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| PERSONALITY similarity consists of |
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| VALUE similarity consists of |
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| moral or ethical compass. "what is the most important thing in life?" (not reduced to religion). |
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| what similarity was the best predictor of initial attraction? |
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| what two similarities were the best predictors of long-term attraction and relational stability? |
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| we respond more _____ to attractive vs. unattractive persons from an early age |
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favorably
think of experiment with kindergarteners. teacher asked who would be more successful, picked more attractive ones. |
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| who is judged to be more in love? more attractive couples or less attractive couples? |
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| attractive women face.... |
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| negative sanctions and stereotypes |
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| attractive women are _____ psychologically and emotionally, but ______ off later in life |
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| who is judged more on appearance? men or women? |
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| who is more likely to report the importance of physical attractiveness in determining attraction? |
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| what is the "matching hypothesis"? |
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| while you may date "out of your league", you are most likely to end up with someone similar t you in physical attractiveness |
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| in class example of the "matching hypothesis"? |
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| Steve's junior high dance. with tall girl. |
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| according to Rubin, liking consists of what two components? (and definitions of each) |
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affection: warmth, closeness and fondness
respect: admiration for partners characteristics outside of parameter of the relationship |
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| according to Rubin, loving consists of what three components? (and definitions of each) |
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attachment: desire to be in other's presence.
caring: need to give, love, selfless
intimacy: overall bond or link between two people |
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| what are the four types of relationships? according to Rubin |
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1. no liking, no loving
2. liking, no loving
3. no liking, loving (after Steve's ex Lisa found gold chain)
4. liking and loving |
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| Rubin, Peplau & Hill: what are the stereotypes for women? |
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-more starry-eyed and sentimental about love
-more likely to fall in love
-more likely to experience psychological symptoms. |
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| Rubin, Peplau & Hill: what are the stereotypes for men? |
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-more hard-hearted and rational
-"ruthless" exploiters who fall out of love quickly and casually
-looking for new conquests |
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| Rubin, Peplau & Hill Results: who is more romantic? |
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| Rubin, Peplau & Hill Results: who so more likely to fall in love quicker? |
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| Rubin, Peplau & Hill Results: who is more likely to fall out of love quicker? |
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| Rubin, Peplau & Hill Results: whose love scores are better predictors of the relationship survival? |
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| Rubin, Peplau & Hill Results: who reported more problems as contributing to the break up? |
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| Rubin, Peplau & Hill Results: who is more likely to dump? |
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Women
->see more problems, already broken up before actually breaking up |
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| Rubin, Peplau & Hill Results: who is more likely to initiate the break up when they were MORE or LESS involved? |
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Women.
->social exchange theory |
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| Rubin, Peplau & Hill Results: who reported break ups as more gradual |
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| Rubin, Peplau & Hill Results: who reported suffering more problems after the break up? |
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Men
-> drinking, depression, and anxiety |
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| Rubin, Peplau & Hill Results: who were more likely to be able to stay friends if the break up was mutual or initiated by them? |
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| Rubin, Peplau & Hill Explanations: Men go with their _______, and women go with their ______. |
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| Rubin, Peplau & Hill Explanations: women base mate decision on socioeconomic status because they must be ______ |
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| Rubin, Peplau & Hill Explanations: men and feeling.. |
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| men are taught to hide feelings, but the in relationships are supposed to share them? |
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| Ex expressing emotion difference between men and women |
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| emotions are like crayons |
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| Storge: do not fall in love, love comes from... |
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| stable, predictable, routine nature of the relationship |
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| Agape: do not fall in love because.. |
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| their love is always there |
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| patient, accepting, supportive, selfless, unconditional love, spiritual love. |
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| Mania: FALL in love and have __________ attachment style |
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| jealous, possessive, dependent, needy, sometimes controlling |
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| Mania: the relationship is like a _________ |
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| roller coaster ride, dramatic, intense |
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| Pragma: do not fall in love because |
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| they choose to be in love |
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| practical, objective, sensible, rational, will do things to increase market value of partner. |
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| Ludus: do not fall in love, |
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| multiple partners, dismissive attachment, low-self disclosure, avoid commitment and dependency, not possessive, demanding or jealous |
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| Eros: fall in love _____ and commit ______ |
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| sentimental, high in self-disclosure, always put best foot forward, idealize partner, serial monogamists |
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| Love Attitudes research findings: women are more _____ and ____ than men |
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| Love Attitudes research findings: men are more _____ than women |
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Love Attitudes research findings: People in love are more ______ and ______
and less ______ |
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-involves a violation of trust and/or relationship expectations.
-threatens sense of self
-often means that you have lost something that you have invested into a relationship |
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| define relationship expectations & what two types are there? |
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most basic aspects of any relationship
global & specific. |
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| what are global relationship expectations? |
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| (or general) expectations that apply to any relationship |
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| what are specific relationship expectations? |
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| expectations that arise from patterns in a particular relationship |
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| define trust and its aspects |
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-ability to rely on partner to do what is promised and to be faithful
-the ability to self-disclose and be yourself without fear. |
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| most important and satisfying relationships are characterized by _______ |
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| a violation of relationship norms governing what is considered an acceptable extra-dyadic intrusion |
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| what is sexual infidelity? |
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-motivated by a desire for novel sexual experience.
-usually a brief indiscretion and involve minimal amount of self disclosure and trust.
-->men more likely to pursue |
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| what is emotional infidelity? |
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-motivated by a desire to find a more emotionally responsive partner
-may last several years, high in self disclosure and trust.
-->women are more likely to pursue |
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| what are other motivations for infidelity? |
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-revenge
-relieve boredom (sexual)
-gain respect and recognition
-feel young
-feel understood (emotional) |
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| Glass and Wright Infidelity findings: ___% of men and ___% of women EMSI (extra marital sexual intercourse) |
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| Glass and Wright Infidelity findings:___% of men and ___% of women EMPE (extra marital physical envolvement) |
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| Glass and Wright Infidelity findings: ___% of men and __% women who had cheated reported marriages as being "happy" or "very happy" |
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| is sexual satisfaction a predictor of male/female cheating? |
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| what are the warning signs of infidelity? |
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-increased privacy
-schedule changes
-change in interests that are not shared with you
-change in personal appearance habits
-less open about expenditures. |
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| characteristics of LOW CONVERSATION orientation |
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-interact infrequently
-limit conversations.
-discourage disclosure and discussion |
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| characteristics of HIGH CONVERSATION orientation |
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-communicate regularly
-share thoughts and feelings openly
-view communication as the principal vehicle for maintaining family bonds |
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| characteristics of LOW CONFORMITY orientation |
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-emphasize diversity
-view outside relationships as equally important
-expect children to contribute to decisions |
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| characteristics of HIGH CONFORMITY orientation |
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-use IPC to enforce uniformity
-expect children to obey parents
-prioritize family relationships |
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| consensual families are ___ in conformity and _____ conversation |
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high in conversation
high in conformity |
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| pluralistic families are ___ in conformity and _____ conversation |
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high in conversation
low in conformity |
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| protective families are ___ in conformity and _____ conversation |
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low in conversation
high in conformity |
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| laissez-faire families are ___ in conformity and _____ conversation |
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low in conversation
low in conformity |
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| what are the three relational dialects? |
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openness vs. protection
autonomy vs. connection
novelty vs. predictability |
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| explain openness vs. protection |
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| desire to share, but also the need to keep things to yourself for protection |
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| explain autonomy vs. connection |
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| wanting to connect with partner, but also the desire to still be your own person |
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| explain novelty vs. predictability |
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| desire for new things, yet still being predictable (because that's what stabilizes relationships) |
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| what are the steps to "coming together"? |
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| initiating, experimenting, intensifying, integrating, bonding. |
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| size up person you've never met, decide if you find attractive. think of greeting. |
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| after initiating an encounter, exchange of demographic information. "small talk" light. "casual dating" |
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if you experience strong feelings of attraction to someone else.
begin to reveal previously withheld information, dreams, goal, "baby" "we". hand holding, cuddling, sexual activity. |
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| personalities seem to become one. reinforced through sexual activity and exchange of belongings. |
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| public ritual that announces to the world that you and your partner have made a commitment to one another. marriage. |
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| what are the stages in "coming apart"? |
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| differentiating, circumscribing, stagnating, avoiding, terminating. |
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| the beliefs, attitudes, and values that distinguish you from partner dominate your thoughts and communication. |
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| actively being to restrict the quantity and quality of the information you exchange with partner |
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| both presume communication is pointless because it only leads to arguments. "stuck" "trapped" |
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| when one or both decide they can no longer be around each other & you begin distancing self physically. |
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| couples may discuss past, present and future of relationship. getting closure. end all contact. remain friends? etc. |
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| what are the relational maintenance strategies? |
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| positivity, assurances, sharing tasks, acceptance, self-disclosure, relationship talks, social networks |
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| top three countries of infidelity acceptance? |
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| Russia, Bulgaria, Czech Republic. |
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| top three countries of infidelity intolerant? |
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| Phillipines, Ireland, USA. |
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| three kinds of stories families share? |
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| courtship, birth, survival |
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| maintenance for families? |
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| positivity, assurance, self-disclosure |
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