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| Having both masculine and feminine traits |
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| In the Jahari window, the pane that includes information others know about us that we are unaware of |
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| A dimension of self-disclosure that indications how many topics we disclose about within a relationship. |
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| A therapeutic release of tension and negative emotion as a result of self-disclosing. |
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| A strategy for dealing with dialect tensions in a relationship that allows to choose opposite poles of the dialect at different times |
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| A dimension of self-disclosure indicating how much detail we provide about a specific topic |
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| A strategy for coping with dialect tensions in a relationship by exempting certain topics from discussion |
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| A tendency for us to return to another's self disclosure with one that matches it in level of intensity |
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| In the Jahari window, the pane that includes the information about ourselves that we are aware of but that we have chosen not to disclose |
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| Information that may sound personal to another person but that is relatively easy for us to tell |
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| A strategy for dealing with the dialect tension in a relationship that allows us to synthesize the opposites. Integration can take three forms: neutralizing, disqualifying and reframing. |
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| A model used to understand the process of self-disclosure consisting of a square with four panels that provide a pictorial representation of how known we are to ourselves and to others |
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| A strategy for coping with dialect tensions in a relationship that allows us to strike a compromise between the two opposing poles of dialect |
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| In the Jahari window, the pane that includes all the information about us that we know and that we have shared with others through disclosures |
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| Assessments, both good and bad, that we make about ourselves, including our personal values and our interests, fears and concerns |
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| Personal facts, usually socially approved characteristics, we make part of our public image |
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| The tendency to respond in kind to another's self disclosure |
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| A strategy for dealing with dialect tension in a relationship that allows us to isolate sperate arenas, such as work and home, for using each pole in the opposition. |
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| A strategy for dealing with dialect tension in a relationship that allows us to choose one of the opposite poles of a dialect and ignore our need for the other |
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| Evaluative and descriptive information about the self, shared intentionally, than another would have trouble finding out without being told |
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| A model of self disclosure and relational development that reflects shared information ranging from the most obvious to the most personal |
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| Information we feel we are taking a risk telling another |
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| An issue that is out of bounds for discussion |
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| The nature of a topic discussed in relation to the closeness of the relationship. |
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| In the Jahari window, the pane that includes the information that neither we nor others are aware of about ourselves |
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| An explanation for a transgression that may accompany an apology. |
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| Affection and Instrumentality Dialect |
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| The tension between framing a friendship with someone as an end in itself (affection) or seeing it as a means to another end (instrumentality). |
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| Emphasizing the commonalities we think we share with another person. |
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| A simple statement like I really am sorry |
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| Proving nonverbal signals that indicate we'd like to initiate contact with another person, such as going up to a person or smiling a the direction of a person |
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| Autonomy and Connection Dialect |
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| The tension between our desire to be independent or autonomous while simultaneously wanting to feel a connection with our partner |
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| A stage in the coming apart section of Knapp's models of relationship development in which two partners stay away from each other because they feel that being together is unpleasant |
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| The final stage of the coming together part of Knapp's model of relationship development in which the partners make a public commitment to their relationship |
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| A systems principles referring to the fact that hierarchy is formed by creating boundaries around each separate system (e.g. a brother and sister, the family as a whole, and so forth.). However, human systems are inherently open, which means that information passes through these boundaries. Therefore some researchers call this openness and others call it boundaries |
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| The process of systems setting their parameters, checking on themselves, and self-correcting. |
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| A stage in the coming apart section of Knapp's model of relationship development in which two people's communication behaviors are restrained so that fewer topics are raised (for fear of conflict), more issues are out of bounds, and they interact less |
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| Interdependent partners who satisfy each other's connection and social inclusion, feel an emotional attachment to each other, are irreplaceable to one another, and enact unique communication patterns. |
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| A person's standard level for what types of costs and rewards should exist in a given relationship |
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| Comparison Level for Alternatives |
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| A comparison of the cost and rewards pf a current relationship to the possibility of doing better in a different relationship |
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| What people talk about and do together |
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| Repairing the relationship when it runs into trouble |
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| The things in relational life that we judge as negative |
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| The first stage of coming apart in Knapp's model of relationship development, in which two people notice ways in which they differ |
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| Diversity of Interactions |
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| The number of different experiences people share |
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| The ability to achieve the same goals (or ends) by a variety of means |
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| A stage in Knapp's model of relationship development in which two people become acquainted by gathering information about each other |
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| Tensions between oppositions that have to do with how relational partners negotiate the public aspects of their relationship |
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| Bits of lore about family members and activities that are told and retold as a way for family members to construct a sense of family identity and meaning |
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| A principle that states that all relationships are embedded within larger systemss |
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| The tension between an idealized vision of friendship and the real friends one has |
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| A conversation with oneself in which one partner plays the parts of both partners in a mental rehearsal |
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| The first stage in the coming together part of Knapp's model for relationship development in which notice each other and indicate to each other that they are interested in making contact |
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| A stage in the coming together part of Knapp's model of relationship development in which two partners form a clear identity as a couple |
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| A stage in the coming together part of Knapp's model of relationship development in which the intimacy between the partners intensifies |
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| Tensions resulting from oppositions inherent in relational partners' communication with each other |
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| Judgement and Acceptance Dialect |
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| Our desire to criticize a friend as opposed to accepting a friend for who he or she is |
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| Judgement of a relationship that makes us want to continue a relationship after initiating it. This attraction sustains and maintains a relationship |
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| Communication about communication |
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| Feedback that causes a system to reject recalibration and stay the same |
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| In relational development, finding out information about a person from a third party |
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| Novelty and Predictability Dialect |
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| Our simultaneous, opposing desires for excitement and stability in our relationships |
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| Putting ourselves in a good position for another to approach us in a social situation |
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| Feedback that causes a system to recalibrate and change |
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| Paying attention to our relationships even when they are not experiencing trouble |
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| Public and Private Dialect |
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| The tension between how much of a friendship is demonstrated in public and what parts are kept private |
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| Adjust the relationship to accomodate changing needs of the party |
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| The notion that relational partners collaborate and experience shared understandings, roles and rituals that are unique to their relaitonship |
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| Relational Transgressions |
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| Negative behaviors in close relationships, such as betrayals, deceptions and hurtful comments |
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| A situation in which a partner in a relationship believes he or she has a higher power status than the other partner, so will engage in risky strategies without fearing the costs |
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| Those parts of being in a relationship that we find pleasurable |
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| A repeated patterned communication event in a family's life |
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| A relationship in which the partners are interdependent while accomplishing a specific task such as a server or a customer at a restaurant |
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| A judgement of relationship potential that propels us into initiating a relationship |
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| Conversational interactions that are relaxed, pleasant, uncritical and casual |
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| A stage in the coming apart section od Knapp's model of relationship development in which circumscribing is extended so far that a couple no longer talks much except in the most routine ways |
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| Lower level systems of relationship, such as a sibling relationship within a family |
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| Higher level systems or relationships, such as a neighborhood consisting of several families |
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| Behaving in a way that keeps the initial conversation going, such as asking questions |
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| The last stage of the coming apart section of Knapp's model of relationship development, in which a relationship is ending |
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| A principle that states that we can't fully understand a system by simply picking it apart and understanding each of its parts in isolation from one another |
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