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        | what type of difference is there between a legal and religious marriage ceremony? |  | Definition 
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        | We see it in Christian faith as a sacrament A mutual exchange of vows
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        | true/false adjustment is not submission |  | Definition 
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        | what are the four types of couple invaders |  | Definition 
 
        | 1.people 2.behaviors
 3.substance
 4.attitude
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        | behavior as a couple invader |  | Definition 
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        | substance as a couple invader |  | Definition 
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        | atiitude as a couple invader |  | Definition 
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        | four elements of communication |  | Definition 
 
        | 1.ability 2.desire
 3.security
 4.selectivity
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        | Must trust eachother and feel safe with eachother Otherwise you will become defensive/withholding
 You want your communication to be vulnerable and open
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        | two qualities of a listener |  | Definition 
 
        | accepting and non judgemental |  | 
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        | four negative patterns of communication |  | Definition 
 
        | 1. Criticism 2. Defensiveness
 3. Contempt (intentional desire to hurt the other)
 4. Stonewalling (totally ignoring the other)
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