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| Interpersonal Communication |
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| Interpersonal Communication- Communication that occurs between at least two, always more than one, and less than three interdependent parties. |
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Relational Norms
- Norms- Guidelines that limit and direct behavior
- Most relationships have specific norms
- Norms show what is important in relationship
- Become more specified in longer relationships and in marriages
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Relational Roles
- Expected: How you should play a role
- Enacted: How you actually play a role
- Roles are set of behaviors that apply to a sub-interpersonal relationship (father,husband,instructor): give predictability to relationship
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Role Conflict
- Inter-role Conflict: two roles entail contradictory expectations (you are someone's tutor and also their friend)
- Intra-role Conflict: contradictory expectations from one role (as a person's romantic partner, you want to be casual, they want to be serious)
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Self-Disclosure
- Intentional, crucial to developing intimacy
- Johari Window: Known Self (things we know about ourselves and others know about us), Hidden Self (we know, others don't), Blind Self (others know about us, we don't), Unknown Self (neither we now others know about us)
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| Dyadic Effect- when one person discloses something about himself/herself to another, he/she tends to elicit a reciprocal level of openness in the second person |
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| Children's Attachment Styles |
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Children's Attachment Styles
- Secure: 70% of kids (positive models of self and others)
- Avoidant: 20% of kids (negative models of others)
- Anxious-Ambivalent: 10% of kids (negative models of self) (very anxious when separated, relief/anger when reunited)
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| Caregiver Communication Patterns |
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Caregiver Communication Patterns
- Secure: "goodness of fit" in terms of stimulation, responsive to basic needs, consistently caring
- Avoidant: over or understimulated, sometimes neglected
- Anxious-Ambivalent: inconsistent response patterns, parent is preoccupied or stressed
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Adult Attachment Styles
- Secure- positive self, positive others
- Dismissive- positive self, negative others
- Preoccupied- negative self, positive others
- Fearful- negative self, negative others
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| Traditional Marital Style |
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Traditional Marital Style- traditional attitudes towards marriage, interdependent use of time and space, moderate conflict (about "big" stuff), report most satisfaction of the types (wife probably takes husbands last name. More traditional attitudes about marriage. Spend lots of time together whenever possible. )
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| Independent Marital Style |
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| Independent Marital Style- nontraditional attitudes about roles, independent use of time and space, open and assertive conflict style ( ideas about marriage are less rigid, more non traditional. Do their own thing more often. May even have separate rooms in the house…wife has a den or separate space for her hobbies, husband has one of his own. More conflict.) |
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| Separate Marital Style- traditional attitudes about marriage, independent use of time and space, low conflict but high negativity, least satisfied of the types (While they have traditional attitudes about what marriage should be, they don’t necessarily adhere to them. Spent much time apart in individual activities. Don’t fight much but tend to be very negative when then do. Also negative about each other and the relationship.) |
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Dialectical Perspective- sets of opposing or contradictory impulses that create tension between 2 people
Assumptions: contradiction is inherent in social life, these conflicts drive change and vitality, there is a dialectical change
3 main types: Autonomy vs Connection, Certainty vs Uncertainty, Openness vs Closedness
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Autonomy vs. Connection: independence versus interdependence (want to be connected with others, yet want to be autonomous)
- One of the most powerful dialectics
- These needs are dynamic and frequently shifting, tend to vary among individuals
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Certainty vs. Uncertainty: we like predictability, but we also crave excitement (things can get "too predictable" but too much chaos is not comfortable)
- Psychological Trust- knowing how/what you think
- Behavioral Trust- knowing how you'd act
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Openness vs. Closedness
- Openness is akin to sharing
- How much we share is dialectic
- Dialectic scholars argue that true self-disclosure is relatively infrequent
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| Triangular Theory of Love |
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Triangular Theory of Love: maintains that love has 3 distinct components: Intimacy, Passion, Commitment (can exist in balance or out of balance)
Love Styles: Eros, Ludus, Storge, Pragma, Mania, Agape |
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Dominance- need for control over others. In dyads, one often has more dominance than the other, but not always. Can coexist with affiliation.
- Complementary- one up, one down
- Symmetrical- both up or down
- Parallel- combination, varies by topic
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| Dominance and Affiliation |
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High Affiliation, High Dominance- Advise, direct, lead
High Affiliation, Low Dominance- Agree, assist, cooperate
Low Affiliation, High Dominance- Analyze, criticize, judge
Low Affiliation, Low Dominance- Concede, evade, withdraw |
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