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| the desire to overlap or blend with another person, so that you have access to that person's knowledge, insights, and experience and thus broaden and deepen your own experience of life |
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| the finding that the more we see and interact with people, the more likely they are to become our friends |
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| aspects of architectural design that determine which people you cross paths with most often |
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| the finding that the more exposure we have to a stimulus, the more apt we are to like it |
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| a match between our interests, attitudes, values, background, or personality and those of another person |
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| the more similar someone's opinions are to yours, ______ |
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| the more you will like the person |
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| shared experiences promote ______ |
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| how does appearance affect attraction? |
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| you are often drawn to those who look like you. similar attractiveness level |
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knowing that a person likes us fuels our attraction to that individual
may make up for lack of similarity |
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| men vs. women in physical attractiveness and liking |
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men pay more attention to physical attractiveness
both genders rate physical attractiveness as the single most important characteristic that triggers sexual desire |
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| symmetry is more attractive |
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| evolutionary approach to mate selection |
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| a theory derived from evolutionary biology that holds that men and women are attracted to different characteristics in each other (men are attracted by women's appearance; women are attracted by men's resources) because this maximizes their chances of reproductive success |
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| evolution and sex differences |
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women are likely to look for men who are financially stable
men are likely to look for women who look capable of reproduction |
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| consists of feelings of intimacy and affection we have for someone that are not accompanied by passion or physiological arousal |
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| involves an intense longing for another person, characterized by the experience of physiological arousal -- the feeling of shortness of breath and a thumping heart in someone's presence |
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| romantic love is less emphasized in collectivistic marriages |
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| the expectations people develop about relationships with others, based ont he relationship they had with their primary caregiver when they were infants |
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| three types of relationships between infants and their caregivers |
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secure attachment
avoidant attachment
anxious/ambivalent attachment |
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| an attachment style characterized by trust, a lack of concern with being abandoned, and the viwe that one is worthy and well liked |
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| avoidant attachment style |
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| an attachment style characterized by a suppression of attachment needs because attempts to be intimate have been rebuffed; people with this style find it difficult to develop intimate relationships |
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| anxious/ambivalent attachment style |
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| an attachment style characterized by a concern that others will not reciprocate one's desire for intimacy, resulting in higher-than-average levels of anxiety |
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| future of secure attachment |
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| better able to develop mature, lasting relationships as adults |
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| future of avoidant attachment |
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| less able to trust others and find it difficult to develop close, intimate relationships |
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| future of anxious/ambivalent attachment |
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| want to become close to their adult partners but often worry that their partners will not return their affections |
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| people's expectations about the level of rewards and punishments they are likely to receive in a particular relationship |
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| comparison level for alternatives |
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| people's expectations about the level of rewards and punishments they are likely to receive in a particular relationship |
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| people who have high comparison level for alternatives are more likely to _____ |
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| take the plunge and hit the market for a new friend or lover |
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| people with a low comparison level for alternatives will be more likely to ____ |
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| stay in a costly relationship, because in their mind, what they have may not be that great, but it's better than their expectation of what they could find elsewhere |
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| the theory that people's commitment to a relationship depends not only on their satisfaction with the relationship in terms of rewards, costs, and comparison level and their comparison level for alternative, but also on how much they have invested in the relationship that would be lost by leaving it |
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| what do we need to know to predict whether people will stay in an intimate relationship? |
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- how satisfied they are with the relationship
- what they think of their alternatives
- how great their investment in the relationship is |
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| the idea that people are happiest with relationships in which the rewards and costs experienced and the contributions made by both parties are roughly equal |
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relationships are governed by the need for equity
people keep track of who is contributing what and feel taken advantage of when they feel they are putting more into the relationship than they are getting out of it |
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| relationships in which people's primary concern is being responsive to the other person's needs |
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| four stages of the breakup |
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1. intrapersonal - the individual thinks a lot about his or her dissatisfaction with the relationship
2. dyadic - the individual discusses the breakup with the partner
3. social - the breakup is announced to other people
4. intrapersonal - the individual recovers from the breakup and forms an internal account of how and why it happened |
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| destructive behaviors in troubled relationships |
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- actively harming the relationship
- passively allowing the relationship to deteriorate |
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| constructive behaviors in troubled relationships |
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- actively trying to improve the relationship
- passively remaining loyal to the relationship |
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| gender differences in break ups |
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men not interested in remaining friends
women more interested in remaining friends especially when they are the breakees |
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| the measure of social distance between people |
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| ratings of how much they liked their partner decreased after the date, as did perceptions of how similar they were |
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| three primary services dating websites advertise |
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1. aggregating a large number of profiles for browsing
2. providing opportunity for computer-mediated communication with potential mates
3. matching users based on analyses of compatibility |
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| what are the 3 marital styles John Gottman found in his marriage research? |
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1. validating (support/negotiate)
2. volatile (passionate)
3. avoidant (minimize) |
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| validating (support/negotiate) marital style |
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| couples compromise often and calmly work out problems to mutual satisfaction |
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| volatile (passionate) marital style |
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| conflict erupts often, resulting in passionate disputes -- see each other as equals |
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| avoidant (minimize) marital style |
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| couples agree to disagree, rarely confronting their differences head on |
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| ratio for marriage stability? |
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5:1
there must be 5x the amount of positive as there is negative |
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