Initial attraction: Proximity and Appearance

Long term attraction: Ethos, Self-disclosure/reciprocation, Similarity/complementarity.

A breach of a relationship. A violation of unspoken/spoken rules. Breaking a promise.

Example: Your girlfriend gets pregnant, she should know that you don't want the news to be spread around, next thing you see a status of her posting that she's pregnant

The assessment dealing with a failure event.

Reproach- a message that a failure event has occured

Account- response to a reproach. Five forms: apologize, excuses, justifying, denying, and avoiding

Response- to come back with forgiveness or retaliation. 

Lying.

Types of deception: 

Omission- leaving out information to intentionally mislead the listener.

Commission- deliberate presentation of false information.

3 different lies:

White Lies- only slight degree of falsification that has minimal consequences. Exaggeration- Stretching out the truth.

Bald-face lie- a complete lie that isn't true at all.

Fear or threat of losing a valuable relationship 

2 types of jealousy:

Cognitive- thoughts about the loss of your partner

Affective- the feelings or emotional process of jealousy. example: anger, sadness, etc. 

The desire for something someone else has.

Example: Someone bought a nice car that you want. 

Fear or anxiety associated with either real or anticipated communication with other people. 

Example: stage fright

A style of relating to others that develop early in life, based on the emotional bond one forms with one's parents or primary caregiver.

Attachment styles: Avoidant, Anxious, or Secure.

A person's subjective description of who he or she is.

What you think you are.

Your evaluation of your worth or value based on your perception of such things as your skills, abilities, talents, and appearance.

AKA: Self-worth 

Communication that undermines or challenges someone's positive face.

Examples: Disagreeing with someone or criticizing. 

Concept that suggests you learn who you are based on your interactions with others, who reflect your self back to you. 

Example: parents, friends, and significant others mirror their thoughts onto us to believe who we are. 

Someone who creates messages without giving much thought to the person who is listening. Someone who is self-focused and self-absorbed.

Example: only talking about yourself and accomplishments. bragging about yourself.

1st layer- Content

2nd layer- Relationship

Ability to consciously think about what you are doing and experiencing.

Example: driving and talking isn't being mindful to others. volunteering or complimenting is mindful of others.

To attribute a set of qualities to a person because of the person's membership in some category; to place a person or group of persons into an inflexible, all-encompassing category.

Example: Asians can't drive. 

Observing a small sample of someone's behavior and then making a generalization about what the person is like, based on the small sample.

Example: Someone owns a gun so they must be killers.

Not a panacea (an instant fix for everything)

Quantity of communication makes everything easier

Meanings in words.

Face-to-Face: Upfront and close communication. Social presence, characteristic.

EMC- Anonymity and distance. Not close in promixity. 

Process of focusing on specific stimuli, locking on to some things in the environment and ignoring others. 

Example: paying attention to advertisement instead of the road. 

Theory that explains how you generate explanations for people's behavior. 

Example: coming up with reasons why a student in class left in the middle of a lecture.